Hating compliments (possible tw)

[pudgey2]

When I was only around 10-15 lbs underweight, people would compliment how I looked, and guys would talk to me. I hated it. Mostly because I knew that I was sick, and if I got help then I was scared I wouldn't get asked for my number any more, and nobody would think I was beautiful. It would all leave if I were to get healthy. I mean, I WASN'T healthy, so why was I appealing to those girls who liked the way clothes fit on me or called me beautiful or guys who wanted to take me out to coffee? If I stopped purging everything I ate then they wouldn't think that anymore. Does anybody else feel this way?
Now that I have lost more weight I don't get the attention anymore, and I think it's better this way. I think if someone were to compliment my body now I'd get triggered beyond the moon. It's one of the most triggering stages of an ED in my opinion, when you still bother to make yourself up and your bmi is in between emaciated and anorexic... Since that's what a lot of girls in magazines are, it's understandable that that is what some people are going to view as nice. And the fact that they pay attention to you when you're like that is such a drive to get thinner.

[kallista93]

I'm there.
Whenever I am at my thinnest & my hair is falling out because I am so unhealthy, I get the most compliments & the most attention from men. Of course it is triggering, & of course it just makes matters worse.

One time when I was working at the bookstore, one of my co-workers was SHOCKED that I had a piece of pizza in the break room because I was her "role model." At the time I had buzzed my hair off & was wearing a scarf because it had fallen out because of my poor health.

Never mind that boys love the thin body but hate the fact that you waste their money when they take you out to dinner. I always tell them, if you love the body you have to deal with the weird habits.

I don't know what to tell you because I am not all better, but I do know that dating & people just make it all worse. One day I hope to find someone who will love me no matter what, but until then, life is triggering. We have two choices, life or ED. I still don't know the answer.

[Clarice_Starling]

Agree with above statement...this is why it pisses me off that guys will post on Facebook or some other sites how "skinny women are gross" they are such hypocrites....I am about 30 pounds underweight, guys hit on me, and I hate that because I want to look death thin, and I have people say I do...so WHY are they still asking me out? You put a "curvy" girl next to a "anorexic" girl and 99.9% of the time, the guy will pick the skinny one...I know, I'm friends with A LOT of guys.. Also, NO, I don't want to go out to eat on a date...does it LOOK LIKE I DO? And if you don't like someone who purges what food they eat...don't bother asking me out.

[annaliese]

I hate that anyone can give me compliments, and I question anyone who gives me them, that they feel sorry for me, and I just think they're making fun of me.

Also if someone tells me I look skinny, I feel kind of happy but it's so much pressure then. That person will see me as skinny forever now, I'm only me if I'm skinny.

[ForeverPURE]

I hate whe people say I look good and skinny because even though I know I'm very underweight I just CANT see it! And the worst thing is that I have lost alot but I just can't see it and still feel like I look the same.
I also hate when people give me compliments because I feel like I have to lose more or stay the way I am to be acceptable?
Even though I'll lose more anyway it's weird feeling pressured into it :/

[azzywazzyjazzy]

I always get compliments but I absolutely hate it. I just feel like I don't want anyone looking at me, whether they think I look nice or not. I have a thing about people touching or seeing me. When they say they think I look nice or if I've lost weight, I just feel like all eyes are on me and I hate it.

[HiLz]

I hate when people compliment me on my body/weight/shape, because to me they don't even know how I ended up looking like I do. It's not fun and it's not something to be complimenting me on at all. I usually end up snapping at people complimenting me, because if they knew the truth they would never say anything of the kind. Much as I hate these compliments they make me feel like I have to stay skinny & also get skinnier.

[truebones]

When I was really underweight, I got compliments all the time. My mom always bragged to people about how "they just don't make clothes for girls as thin as ****"... I feel weird about using my real name, but anyway, I hated it because it was so much pressure to stay thin. Now I feel like my mom likes me less because I'm not underweight.

[ItsMyLife]

no matter how much i tell myself i am ill i still want to go that little bit further. I cant take any form of compliment at all! I get embarrassed and don't know what to say. I feel like a stupid child because i just cant believe them

[pudgey2]

Agree with above statement...this is why it pisses me off that guys will post on Facebook or some other sites how "skinny women are gross" they are such hypocrites....I am about 30 pounds underweight, guys hit on me, and I hate that because I want to look death thin, and I have people say I do...so WHY are they still asking me out? You put a "curvy" girl next to a "anorexic" girl and 99.9% of the time, the guy will pick the skinny one...I know, I'm friends with A LOT of guys.. Also, NO, I don't want to go out to eat on a date...does it LOOK LIKE I DO? And if you don't like someone who purges what food they eat...don't bother asking me out.

But the good thing is that most guys will pick the healthy over the anorexic. You shouldn't generalize guys! The only reason they'd pick a disordered looking girl over a healthy one is if they are disordered too, or ignorant. In my experience most healthy guys like healthy girls too. Now that I think about it, I got attention even when I was chubby. I think the problem is a lot of people are ignorant so they don't understand you're killing yourself to be a certain weight. When I was at a bmi of 15.7 my social worker who knew about my ED said "well you're probably keeping some of it down, you still look healthy."
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