Telling

[Sarah Owens]

I'm not sure if this belongs here but I am looking for some sort of support of advise. I've had an eating disorder for more than a couple of years and while I've struggled with this I decided to tell my parents the truth today. They've suspected something but they don't know the whole story. I'm really happy to get this off my chest but I'm not sure how to go about this conversation. Help?

[fruit-loop]

Be as honest as you can bear!

BEFORE you tell them anything tho... think about what you WANT their reaction to be (ie. what you do you want to gain from telling them). Figuring this out will hopefully give you the lead in getting what you need from your parents in this situation.

You're doing a brave thing! ** claps
Hugs

[haifisch]

Okay, some quick advice on how they will react, it may be some screaming, some treating you like you are crazy and need to "snap out of it." Because it takes parents years sometimes to really understand how an ED works. If they want to support you they will need education. (Books, treatment team...)

Don't get angry and defensive, and don't lie. You just have to show humility and modesty, be brave.
If you're going to tell them anything, such as if they are saying something like: "How could you do this? You are being stupid!"
Don't say: "See you make me want to starve more!" You would say: "When you call me stupid, you make me feel inadequate."

Use the When you BLANK I feel BLANK, I need you to BLANK.