Things your boyfriend says. TW.

[missatastic]

Ugh. Just received my first insult on food.
I'm eating some Taco Bell that my love picked up (with the intention to purge, of course.)
I have a cheesey potato burrito. He loves cheese, potatoes.. meat.. burritos, so I said.. "Hey! Why haven't you ever gotten one of these?"
"Well, I don't think I could finish it all.." he says to me, as I take the last bite. My face just goes blank as my heart breaks.

And never in my life have I ever felt so disgustingly gigantic.


Just needed a place to express this. Am I alone in feeling so hurt by a comment like this? Ugh. Worst part about it is he has a HUGE appetite and could eat everything ever.

This all after he made me feel highly inferior by checking out tiny girls on my Facebook while I was asleep. 2 weeks ago, I wouldn't have cared. But after this relapse.. I'm just so fragile. I was upset.. I didn't yell at him or anything.. I was just sad.. and he jumped down my throat about it. Uugggggghhhh. Talk about a TRIGGER!!

[Maria527]

I think this is funny only because I can SO relate! My BF does that ALL the time! We will have a meal at a restaurant and I swear my plate is always bigger and fuller than his. Then he'll get part way through his meal, take one of those big deep breaths and sigh and say, "I'm full." I'm thinking, you barely ate anything! I'm nowhere near full and he has stopped eating already! I get SO embarrassed that I can shovel down SO much more food than him. And he weighs about 50 lbs more than me!

So I'll offer him a bite of something from my place and the reply is, "No thanks, I'm too full." It's ONE bite! What do you mean you are too full to taste one more bite? I find myself trying to encourage him to eat more, but once he's done, he's done. Then I feel like I should stop eating too, but really I want to finish what's on my plate AND what's on his plate.

I think my stomach is stretched out from binging and purging and it takes a lot more for me to get the feeling of fullness.

Anyway, you are not alone. I feel very self-conscious and embarrassed by the comments.

[Amaya]

Nope,you aren't alone.Happens to me all the time.It's even worse because I know how sweet my boyfriend is and I know he doesn't mean anything by it,so I just end up feeling guilty for feeling bad or triggered by a comment he's made.Once he said 'It's funny because you'll eat nothing for days and then all the sudden get super hungry and eat tons!'...ha..ha..ha? .___. I also have a hard time when he comments on anything concerning exercise or on me while I'm exercising,we were jogging together (huge mistake because he's thinner and a foot taller than me so his 'jog' was like a fast walking so he could stay next to me :[ ) and he said 'You're turning me on so much right now.'..of course my head turned that into 'The iota of fat you just lost jogging made you just a little less gross to me.' *ahem* :/

[Genibibiou]

Nope,you aren't alone.Happens to me all the time.It's even worse because I know how sweet my boyfriend is and I know he doesn't mean anything by it,so I just end up feeling guilty for feeling bad or triggered by a comment he's made.Once he said 'It's funny because you'll eat nothing for days and then all the sudden get super hungry and eat tons!'...ha..ha..ha? .___. I also have a hard time when he comments on anything concerning exercise or on me while I'm exercising,we were jogging together (huge mistake because he's thinner and a foot taller than me so his 'jog' was like a fast walking so he could stay next to me :[ ) and he said 'You're turning me on so much right now.'..of course my head turned that into 'The iota of fat you just lost jogging made you just a little less gross to me.' *ahem* :/

Oh my god I do that too. I hear what they're saying but it's like there's this filter that turns their words mean and biting. But then, it's always been difficult for me to take a compliment...

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[yarlycupcakes]

my boyfriend and i always talk about yummy naughty food.. and he says that he couldnt eat it.. or says how much he could eat.. and i am always just.. embarrassed because i could eat double what he does. he is 270lbs and a bodybuilder. I want to be so thin you can count my ribs. Example, the other day we were talking about donuts and donut holes. he said that he could eat about 30 donut holes.. the morning before i ate 40, plus some cookies and a breakfast sandy.

[faemine]

i'm a lesbian so i don't relate to the boyfriend aspect but my friend and i always go out to eat, and once we had sushi and i ate both of my sushi rolls before she'd finished half of one. then another time we got little ice cream cartons and i ate all of mine and she said "wow i'm full" and she'd barely skimmed the top of hers.
i feel like an insatiable monster

[miasgrrl]

I can't relate to the boyfriend bit either, but I had an ex that was anorexic. She never ate. I remember going out to eat with her for the first time. We went to Red Lobster. I got shrimp pasta and she got water with lemon. I fet like a whale. My fiancee now has about the same appetite I do, but she's much heavier than me.

[Ivy45]

I wouldn't take the burrito comment to heart too much, but if I found out my bf had been checking out other girls on facebook I would go absolutely batshit insane with him.

I'm very possessive.

[elzie]

I wouldn't take the burrito comment to heart too much

This is because we pride ourselves in eating more that 2 grown gym men hahahaha

[ednos]

how about "I mean, if you can force yourself to binge when it’s not something you really want, you should be able to force yourself to not binge" people who know nothing should say nothing...