"unattractive"??!!??!! ..wanker -__-

[sAint]

of course it would.. i wouldnt do it if i knew the girl ..but if i dont i just dnt get involved with their other relations

[TheCornerGirl]

Umm, yes. Agreed.
No offence but your not the only girl in the world,
If you wanna fuck guys for fun, that's your deal.
But it's wrng to break up a relationship for your need to feel attractive. A lot of girls feel that way. Including his gf or wife. Respect that. Please. O.o
While it's the guy that's REALLY doing something wrong, you would be hurt if someone you were with cheated on you, it's terribly selfish to encourage a man to do that to someone else.

Ditto... You don't want to be the 'bad guy'. Guys are retarded anyway and they don't need encouragement. Guys, even married guys will try and flirt or start something with you, because they are selfish greedy pigs. But keep in mind the poor lady he's married to. Even if she's not his ideal woman or has 'changed', she's still our sister and a fellow woman. We need to be the better example and give stupid boys the wake-up call they need.
A little harmless flirting can be fun sometimes - but in the long run I think out of respect for their lady I'd rather just casually blow them off with a lip-glossed smirk and tell him to go home and flirt with his wife instead - just as much satisfaction but then you aren't grinding your spiked heel into your fellow sisters.
Though I do understand the 'need' for this type of reassurance, believe me. I just think it isn't right. But we love you anyway, and opening up about your socially-unacceptable desires can't be easy.

[flowersOFconfusion]

of course it would.. i wouldnt do it if i knew the girl ..but if i dont i just dnt get involved with their other relations

What's the difference if you know the girl?
Whether you know her or not, she doesn't deserve to be cheated on......

[biochemguy]

Willing to break up a beautiful relationship between two people who love each other and could care less...gets mad when one guy doesn't think she's good-looking. Wait, what? o.O

While I do agree that this husband is in the wrong, it's like giving a heroin addict access to heroin. I'm not saying that guys are all sex addicts like someone addicted to heroin (unlike what some people think on this thread), but the analogy would be that the heroin addict taking the heroin is indeed in the wrong, but the person GIVING the heroin is also at fault as well.

Btw, I can't believe people are saying men are pigs, while condoning flirting with taken men in the same breath. Ok I'm off my soap box now.

[biochemguy]

Regardless though, sorry he called you unattractive. Everybody is entitled to an opinion and to express that opinion but nobody ever wants to hear that. I wouldn't react so well if someone said that to me, but I would internalize it more than anything unfortunately. haha

[snowprincess]

i quote: "i just dont find you attractive, i cant even have sex with you" ..is it just me or is that the LAST thing you say to someone suffering from an eating disorder??!!

I heard this very thing, its sooo hard to hear but to someone who dosent know you have an ED (my situation), but its is totally a horrible thing to be told, im so srry you had to hear this, i know it cuts you in two the pain of that is horrible i know. Stay strong and dont let his words get to you, he isnt a real man.

[lemonsorbet]

You say you two were friends for ages first and that it was wierd being a couple.. My take on it would be that he meant he couldnt see you in that way, as a sexual attraction thing.. Doesn't mean you are unattractive, he just meant( although poorly said) that HE doesn't find you attractive in that way. I say this because this is how I felt about an ex with whom I'd been friends for ages. Logically I knew he was an attractive guy and lots of my friends fancied him.. But because I knew him as my friend/brother figure for so long, I just couldn't appreciate his sexualness! Just a thought.