"unattractive"??!!??!! ..wanker -__-

[sAint]

right me and the boyf split up, to be frank, we'd been mates for ages it was just a bit weird being together. mutual break up ..however thts not what bothers me. as we were discussing why we just didnt work he said, and i quote: "i just dont find you attractive, i cant even have sex with you" ..is it just me or is that the LAST thing you say to someone suffering from an eating disorder??!! on the one hand ive never felt uglier. on the other i try tell myself its just cos weve been mates for so long. thing is last year we had a banging sex life when i met him.. how do i get so unattractive in a year?? only differance is ive lost weight and my hairs purple.. and even so he still thinks im "chubby" so its not that im 'too thin.'

oh well.. i guess its time to go back to my hoards of men who think im a right piece of ass and back to gw: underweight by easter

what was i thinking having a relationship?? i miss my fuck buddies .. now i gotta see if they (yes plural.. im a skank =p) are still available.. im sure theyll come round with a bit of the ol duty free and a few sly touches here and there ..haha how slaggy do i sound!! gahh i had this one guy who was really fun to hang out with (and was hung like donkey XD) ..a french guy (nuff said haha) ..a mate who, even tho we cant screw cos hes got a mrs, does everything else incredibly.. and the odd shag off this wanker who was cheating on his fiance but is the best shag of my life

god how sad is it that in a strange way i use sex to make myself feel pretty.. i know im not ugly, to be honest i like to think im quite 'hot' (pardon the bigheadedness) ..as much as i hate my body i know men blatantly find me attractive, i think i have a pretty face (excluding when my glands swell =( ), and i know logically im not fat (despite what the mirror says).. also im 19 and generally quite a wee person and i think men in their late 20s often like that novelty of screwing someone just under a decade younger than them

its kind of like i know people find me attractive so therefore logically i must be because otherwise i wouldnt be getting any totty.. particularly in the way that its not an "every holes a goal" situation, theyre enjoying me, not having a cold boink that could be a sex doll (ie a drunken pull that even though youre kind of sobering up a bit you go for it anyway and just try pretend theirs a bag over their head or try count ceiling tiles).. also they come back for more which wouldnt happen if i were an ugly fucker ..and its not cos its easy sex.. i mean theyre proper nice guys and theyll want to hang out and shit, like going out on the piss, getting high with the flatmates etc..

oh dear this is ALOT longer than i thought ....sorry guys XD ..ill stop now
(sorry i sound like a whore.. im not really.. i just recon were all single adults with no strings attached and therefore dont care what goes on when backs are turned =/)

[Ivy45]

He's an ass, you're well shot of him. I've had guys chase me for ages then call me ugly. I think sometimes they just like to hurt you when they haven't got their own way i.e. maybe he's offended that you didn't like being in a relationship with him either and weren't begging him not to end it. At least you realise it's all bullshit.

[sAint]

haha he didnt say it with malice he just doesnt seem to think before speaking and is usually quite blunt (even if its in a nice way).. ah well ill enact my revenge in some form XD ....the wanker -__-

[kittycat]

What is his problem??? Really.

He's an asshole or maybe his dick is too short to give woman the pleasure she needs.

[PhoebeC]

Forgive me if this comes off as rude, but please don't go for guys that are taken. Even if it makes you feel good about yourself, it just ends up hurting other women amd making them feel bad about themselves

[flowersOFconfusion]

Forgive me if this comes off as rude, but please don't go for guys that are taken. Even if it makes you feel good about yourself, it just ends up hurting other women amd making them feel bad about themselves

Umm, yes. Agreed.
No offence but your not the only girl in the world,
If you wanna fuck guys for fun, that's your deal.
But it's wrng to break up a relationship for your need to feel attractive. A lot of girls feel that way. Including his gf or wife. Respect that. Please. O.o
While it's the guy that's REALLY doing something wrong, you would be hurt if someone you were with cheated on you, it's terribly selfish to encourage a man to do that to someone else.

[wingspan]

This recently happened to me as well. We havent broken up yet, but each day is painful now

We're long distance (about 13 hours apart), and we were looking forward to seeing each other for Christmas break.

I finally made it here and we had talked about having lots of sex and were excited. But then he tells me he doesnt find me attractive, and doesnt want to have sex.

I'm fat.. thanks to BED. But I used to be much fatter, and he knows I have problems with overeating... I've been overweight my whole life since I was a kid. I've felt ugly and disgusting my whole life... and he's proven it to me now How can he still tells me he loves me after saying that to me? And he still calls me beautiful sometimes...

This is the second time this has happened to me. I had another boyfriend who left me because he didn't think I was girly and attractive.

[hello cleopatra]

is it weird that i read your entire post with a british accent in my head? that was fun..

[sAint]

Umm, yes. Agreed.
No offence but your not the only girl in the world,
If you wanna fuck guys for fun, that's your deal.
But it's wrng to break up a relationship for your need to feel attractive. A lot of girls feel that way. Including his gf or wife. Respect that. Please. O.o
While it's the guy that's REALLY doing something wrong, you would be hurt if someone you were with cheated on you, it's terribly selfish to encourage a man to do that to someone else.

this is gunna make me sound like an arsehole but here goes:
im not breaking up anything.. im occasionally having sex with this man whos life i couldnt care less about.. i dont know his gf and to be fair i dont know him very well either ..its not my problem if he cocks up his relationship
granted the poor girl might get hurt but the likelihood is theyre either both cheating on eachother or he has trouble keeping it in his pants full stop (hence my role in all this being insignificant)

i just realised u said 'wife' so im asuming u meant my mate with the mrs (that just means girlfriend btw XD) rather than the douchbag with the fiance ..theyre doing long distance so i think they might have some wierd agreement going on between em.. but again if thats not the case and he is being a bit slimey.. not my girlfriend not my problem =/

i realise what a cold bitch i sound like and i apologise but that is genuinely my opinion.. if i dont know or care much about these people i feel no shame in it, were all adults, these guys can make their own decisions.. even if i consider the guy a mate who i respect and am fond of like with the second one i was on about, i dont know and will probably never know his mrs, these are issues he has to deal with not me

i know its hard being cheated on for alot of people but its not my problem, granted i generally find relationships strange and often dont do too well in them, and therefore i suppose ive never felt that sadness that comes with betrayal (i just get pissed off and get some revenge and/or splitting up), but my opinion stays the same ..if the guy cant keep it in his pants, regardless what i do, its not staying in his pants =/

[lemonsorbet]

Ok.. but what if you found out one of these guys gfs was a friend of yours? Would that change anything?