Would love make it all better?

[KoH.]

I'm probably just feeling really lonely lately but do you ever wonder that if you found that one person, things would change? Even if i found that one person, i would just refuse to date because i'm scared of confrontation.

[meerz]

I agree that things would be different.. A certain person with a significant position in your life could change a lot.

[mel_92]

I genuinely think when you fall for someone, it does help with a lot of things. There's this guy I was (am) in love with and spent a lot of time with when I managed to stop purging for a long amount of time, and he made me feel really good about myself and he did/said things that were to do with my weight, and food and it did help a lot.

At the same time, I think it can effect your ED badly if it goes wrong..for example, when I get hurt, I b.p a lot more.

[62135]

I'm probably just feeling really lonely lately but do you ever wonder that if you found that one person, things would change? Even if i found that one person, i would just refuse to date because i'm scared of confrontation.

No. Change happens within, another person can only assist that process

[bittergreen]

I did find that one person, and he's everything to me. My husband is the biggest support I've ever had and the most understanding and non-judgemental human being I've ever met. Despite all that, and while having him has made me not want to die from this any more, it hasn't at all affected the fact that I have a serious eating disorder and other mental health issues, or made fighting them (and wanting to fight them, for that matter) any easier. I've learnt that that has to come completely from within and that no one else besides me is going to solve my issues. Help, sure -- but in the end, it's all up to me.

(Most of the time, I don't think I deserve 1/100th of the love and understanding my husband shows me...)

[wh1testar]

Yes. I feel like if someone straight up fell in love with me and told me they loved me then I think I'd be a lot better...I am in this fucked up situation because of feeling unlovable for so long. It's hard now though because all those years made me actually believe that I am hopeless and that I'm unlovable. So even with the sweetest loving guy, it might take a little while or a village to come to terms with the love and the caring...because I just don't see why anyone would care about me. I cling to my ED because it's the only thing that makes me feel less alone, or makes me feel strong whenever everything around me seems to collapse...It's my shelter...

[KipJo]

It depends on what all you are trying to escape. For me, my boyfriend has been the biggest help in my recovery process. Since we have been together, I haven't purged at all, I have only self harmed a few times (in comparision to multiple times a day) and he works with me and my problems. He is so patient and understanding, and can read me so well. He can tell that im about to have a panic attack before i even realize it.
Like others have said, Love isn't the answer. The one who you fall in love with still isnt the answer, but can be a great help. to really find happiness is a battle you must fight with yourself.

[flowersOFconfusion]

It's not just knowing that your loved that will make it better, if that's what your asking.
But having someone supportive there, who's always encouraging you to grow, and to love yourself, and who gives you a reason to live, all that - makes a huge difference.
I know, this past year, I fell in love for the first time; we just recently broke up, but she is absolutely the most amazing girl; I've grown so much, and changed in so many good ways, and I feel like I'm capable of loving myself. I feel like she showed me that I'm worthy of my love, as well as someone else's.
So I get where your coming from, I guess(:
<3

[Mianis]

Yes...
I recently just started to REALLY like this guy and he really likes me too (but has a gf, just doesn't know how to break up with her yet). I have more motivation to stop planning my meals and eating at certain times. It will be hard though, without planning I might not get enough to maintain. But it's trial and error finding my maintenance.
I'm so much happier liking someone like this and having someone like me. I feel so safe and secure with his arms around me..

[13.]

I actually think I'd be the same, if not worse. I would try so hard to be pretty and worthy of him, I would probably go crazy.