Oral Sex

[mblah]

I can't even think about being in a sexual relationship right now. If I can't touch my body... no way in hell anybody else is, but I wonder...

(And this is borderline awkward, because I'm fairly modest -a little prude) Will I ever be able to give oral sex again?

I'm pretty sure I might throw up on his crotch...

Any experiences?

[bittergreen]

Well I'm not sure I have anything that can help particularly, but I can relate a bit. I was absolutely horrified and disgusted by the idea of giving oral sex before I'd ever done so... for some reason though, once I was in a relationship, I ended up becoming kind of curious and I was the one who actually initiated it -- my husband (boyfriend at the time) wasn't really into the idea himself, as he kind of had the idea that it seemed degrading to women. (Neither of us had had any prior relationships or sexual partners.) I will say that I quite enjoy it now, hahaha.

I can totally relate to the not wanting anyone to touch me, though. For me, it's wrapped up in a lot more than just body image (won't go into the details here), but it took me a loooooong time to become okay with certain things -- and some others things, I don't think I'll ever be okay with (which is actually fine with me, as I don't really care anyway). Like I hate hate hate receiving oral sex... I tried to like it, I really honestly did, but the best I can manage is no longer feeling completely traumatised by it. Thankfully we never really bother trying it any more, as my husband knows how horribly uncomfortable it makes me feel. (And it has nothing to do with worries about taste or smell or that sort of thing either, which seems to be a common reason women might dislike oral. It's the act itself... it makes me feel so creepy. Blehhhh.)

Anyway, as far as your own scenario... is not wanting to touch yourself/be touched by anyone else/give oral sex directly related to your eating disorder and body image issues? If so, I guess I'd say that whether or not you're able to do/enjoy any of those things again really just depends on whether you're able to become more comfortable with yourself in some way...

Edit: Oh, I just realised that you meant you might throw up on his crotch in direct relation to purging. Haha, for some reason that went right over my head when I first read that. Um, as for that... I dunno really, I don't have any problem giving oral and I've been bulimic for over a decade. Is your gag reflex super sensitive??

[mblah]

Edit: Oh, I just realised that you meant you might throw up on his crotch in direct relation to purging. Haha, for some reason that went right over my head when I first read that. Um, as for that... I dunno really, I don't have any problem giving oral and I've been bulimic for over a decade. Is your gag reflex super sensitive??

Haha, Yes! That's good to hear. It's not super sensitive, but I'm afraid that just the act would be so similar to purging it would induce it. Or just be a horrible reminder of it.

[bittergreen]

Yeah, I mean it seems to vary from person to person. I knew a girl on another forum several years ago who posted about giving oral to a guy (I think it was a one-night stand sort of deal, so luckily she never had to see him again!) and vomiting all over him. I believe she'd been drinking at the time so she tried to pass it off as the result of having had too much alcohol, but I know she was pretty mortified. (As anyone would be, I guess!!) But yeah, I've never had that problem thankfully... I guess my gag reflex just isn't all that sensitive. I suppose deep-throating would be especially likely to cause one to vomit; it can definitely be more uncomfortable than performing oral without doing that. Still haven't had any problems really myself, though.

[healthclassdropout]

LOL i've always thought of this in relation to bulimia. i think there was a postsecret or something that someone said bulimia made them better at blowjobs that got me wondering.

on one side, maybe your gag reflex is triggered to go off at any second because of purging, so it's a bad situation.

OR, maybe your gag reflex is just so burnt out that you can become the blowjob champion of 2011.

probably depends on both the person and their status with bulimia at the time. we've all probably had super sensitive and super weak gag reflex days.

[mblah]

OR, maybe your gag reflex is just so burnt out that you can become the blowjob champion of 2011.

LMAO! Maybe I can recover next year and go for the 2012 title.

[dream.of.skinny]

I had to reply to this because I was wondering yesterday, has anyone's gag reflex gotten less sensitive? Mine used to be super sensitive but now (and I'm not beig rude :/ ) I can go further if you get me lol! I've been bulimic for a little over a year. But yeah I hate my body so I hate sex :/

[bloodstream9bite]

I know I'm not supposed to laugh and sorry if I'm being rude but this thread put a smile on my face!
it's amazing how the bulimic mind can turn ANYTHING into purging equipment!!

[nathrakh]

Luckily as a guy i wont ever get into the having to give a blowjob situation.(unless some old fart is willing to pay 10million bucks for a good emo bj, therez always exceptions lulz)

Ontopic: I think the likehood of purging during a oral sex would really depend on how deep you want him to go. Unless your going for a deepthroat it shouldnt go deep enough to trigger a gag reflex. I need to go with my entire hand all the way into my pipe to trigger my gag reflex. Sometimes i need to use my entire brush and hand togheter going 10cm inside just to trigger it.

If everything gos to hell after all and you still purge during the blowjob, you could always try to look at the bright side: Its easy lubrication for other things :P

[mblah]

I know I'm not supposed to laugh and sorry if I'm being rude but this thread put a smile on my face!
it's amazing how the bulimic mind can turn ANYTHING into purging equipment!!

Oh, no. It's pretty damn funny! Haha I'm glad