"You look great! And when you lose that weight, you'll look incredible!" O.o WUT.
by, 08-19-2012 at 08:42 PM (258 Views)
Heya! Kind of new here, but I've got something to get off my chest.
I love the guy I'm with, I really do. But sometimes he says all the wrong things.
He's really into working out, and he loves his body and how hard he works for it. Which is great, and it works for him, etc etc. So it's bad enough that he's always talking about his working out and his awesome healthy-ass eating.
Now, lately, I've put on a bit weight what with the bingeing purging and bingeing not purging and restricting and bingeing. I'm always playing the which-is-worse-bingeing-and-purging-or-just-straight-up-bingeing game.
And even though I've been trying to not purge, and trying to control my binges, I know I've put on weight.
Tonight, I kind of puppy-dog eyed the guy and said 'I feel fat'. And he says, and I quote: 'Don't worry about it. You look great. So if you look great like this, if you lose weight, you'll look even more incredible. Either way, it's fine. And if you want to lose weight... *shrug* You'll find your motivation, just hang in there.'
I guess I was kind of asking for it. And I know it wasn't his intention to call me fat or to insinuate I needed to try harder to lose the weight. But that's what I heard, and it kind of sucked. Because right now, when I say that, I really don't want to be reminded that I could be dieting, I could be restricting, or I could be purging. I want to hear "You're perfect, you're great, your focus should be on getting better not on getting thinner" - especially since he KNOWS about my struggling with b/p-ing.
Maybe I'm expecting too much from him.
But yeah, I just wanted SOMEONE who understood.