Stress

[MissAnthrope]

Me and my fiance have been together for 3 years. When we first got together I was heavy.. around 185.. then I lost a shit load of weight.. got down to 135 (Which is tiny for me... Unfortunatly, I have a large bone structure) Once he came home from the service and I started drinking again, I put on 10 lbs.. then got prego... so now Im a fatty again. I wasnt worry about it too much... I was drinking way too much.. etc. etc. Well, Ive had enough and gave up the booze.. (b/p dosnt work when u drink beer every day) Ive lost about 7 lbs in the last 2 days and he is freaking!! He dosnt want me to get really skinny again he says.... But I was so hot!! And I loved my body.. dosnt he want me to be happy with myself??!! I look in the mirror and cry... I want to look good naked again............:( I dont have sex with the lights on any more because I dont want him to see me fat.. Im so embarrassed of my thighs... my face... my arms... my stomach and back... Its so gross!!!! I hafta loose weight or Im just going to die.... But I want him to be happy with me and I dont want him to fight with me about it. He caught me b/p, so now I only do it when hes not around... I just drinmk water and eat pretzels when hes around... and pretend to eat my dinner...(Give it to the dog) I just dont know what to do.. it was so much easier to loose all the weight when he was gone in the marines.....

[Misty]

If he's in the marines, he may be very interested in physical fitness.

Tell him that you looked and felt your best when you were skinnier, and that you want his support. He might even go running with you, because he's so used to pacing himself to other people, that it won't matter how fast or slow you go. (if you like running)

For the dramatic loss, just tell him that it was water weight and lots of people experience that when they are first starting to lose weight. The pace will slow down to a healthy rate, and you'll have more energy, look and feel better.

I hope things work out :)

[MissAnthrope]

He just makes me feal so insignificant and nasty when he would rather watch porn and jack off than have sex with me... am I that discusting?? he says he dosnt want me to lo0se weight because he dosnt want guys hitting on me.. like Im too fat n nasty now for guys to hit on me...

[Misty]

He just makes me feal so insignificant and nasty when he would rather watch porn and jack off than have sex with me... am I that discusting?? he says he dosnt want me to lo0se weight because he dosnt want guys hitting on me.. like Im too fat n nasty now for guys to hit on me...

Ugh, can I slap him for you?

How dare he not want you to lose weight for jealous reasons. If you want to be happy, and you're not being terribly unhealthy, he should definitely support you.

If he had any better reason, I'd think he was a quality guy. That "dont want other guys hitting on you" is pathetic. I'm sure you're gourgeous, and maybe it'd be nice to have other guys hitting on you, make him work harder to be worthy of you. ;)

[MissAnthrope]

Hes an idiot.. I just want him to be atracted to me... I dont feal that he is...
Oh well.. going to exercise my ass of tonight... cant wait!!