Ok, I have this boyfriend

[Hartleigh]

I've been dating him for 2 months now. I just recently moved in with him. He's 33 years of age, I'm 15. Everyone keeps calling him a pedophile and a creeper and it's really really starting to upset me because I'm so happy being with him.

The problem right now though is that I know he has diseases but he doesn't know that I know, and he wants us to start having sex. I always say no and prevent it from happening but idk how long I'll be able to keep this up for, because it's obviously upsetting him that I don't want to have sex with him.

Also, once I was saying something along the lines of how we should use condoms when we start having sex and he started giggling at me and being patronising and saying I didn't know what I was talking about. But I can't ever see him having sex with me unprotected if he knows that he's going to put me in harms way...

I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him and I'm scared to bring it up with him in case he gets offended and in case what I've been told is completely untrue.

[Veganelf]

Um, do you WANT to get pregnant and have STD's because if you have unprotected sex then that is what is going to happen. Have to be frank with you. It's your body and I don't want to see you make any horrible mistakes. Also, keep in mind that he is breaking the law if he has sex with you since you are under age.

[Susy]

Yup. That ^^^^

[Hartleigh]

I'm 16 this year. It's legal to have sex when you're 16 in the UK. Also, I don't have a vagina, but thanks for assuming.

[musicstreet25]

well either way its not safe. you want to live a long life and you should take any precautions necessary to ensure that. just curious, why a 33 year old? thats quite an age gap. what about your parents?

[Veganelf]

When you don't give specifics, people have to assume. How do we know what gender, etc you are if you don't specify... Also, above poster is right. Why risk messing up your life at such a young age? If this guy is belittling you about using a condom then what makes you think that he would not put you in harms way by not using one?? Seriously, wait until you are 16 and use protection. It's your body and you have the right to stand up for your health regardless of what your boyfriend says.

If you decide to have sex with him, it is your decision. However, I would recommend that he or both of you get tested for AIDS and STD's prior so both of you know what you're dealing with. If he doesn't like that then tough, IMO.

[Susy]

Whoa whoa whoa. Let's not a assume the person is male just because he/she doesn't have a vagina! Some women don't have vaginas....

[Veganelf]

I am done with this thread. I have expressed genuine concern for this person regardless and I feel like all I have gotten is negativity back. I don't care if this person is born male, born female, has a genetic abnormality, or is transgender, or whatever. The concerns are still pretty much the same.

[musicstreet25]

agreed! Come on guys, are you really going to go to blows over a misspoke, a majority of the people on this site are women, its natural. Get over what she said and talk about the real issue, the goal is to help him not show your knowledge on what you know about gender identity.

[FrailAngel]

Yea girl, no matter what use protection. My boyfriend is 23 and he doesn't even know if he has the equipment, and he told me he knows the exact time to pull and blah blah blah. But I told him he either uses a condom or no sex. You have to be strong and tell him how you feel about it, if you don't things could end up very wrong, especially if your dealing with a guy who could have a couple STD's. If he likes/loves you enough he will respect your opinion and listen to you.

[sententia]

It's going to seriously not work in the end... but you want to experience life and see whats out there so I guess you can't blame curiosity. If he has STDs, why put yourself out there... or even be dating him in the first place ? Do whats better for you in the long run, and not what feels good for right now... It's hard but the decisions you make effect the circumstances you'll face later.