How do you stop wanting to get thinner?

[Bubble]

Ive pretty much hit a sticking point in my recovery. I've managed to really cut down the b/p ing and seem to finally have control over what I eat and when.

The problem is, this has led to me restricting more, because I finally feel like I can. All I've ever wanted is to lose weight and be thin, and now I feel like I have a chance at getting there. But of course, this isn't really recovery. For that, I realise now, you have to get rid of the whole lot, which means getting rid of the desire to be thin aswell. My therapist has basically just said that if I'm still trying to lose weight he can't really help me any more. I have to decide to get rid of this dream and accept the weight I am at, which is 'normal' for my height.

I can't though. A huge part of me wants to get better and to just to be able to enjoy life, and I don't want to have to quit therapy (but staying there would just be wasting his time) but there's this huge part of me that still thinks my life will be so much better if i get thin. i cannot accept myself the way I am now, I disgust myself too much. I know life will be better thin, but that's not recovery... so... how do you lose the desire to get thin? That's the only way I can do this :(

[shadowgirl]

a very difficult question!! :(

now your bmi= 22.6 so maybe when you reach a bmi= 18.5 you're gonna like your body?! but if you don't like it, then go to therapy. all I'm saying is: you still have the right to loose weight :) so, why not?! do it right, without purging or starving yourself!!

I hope what I'm saying is not affected by my ED!!

[Bubble]

I can def see what you're saying... so it's sort of a compromise. I still aim to lose weight and get down to a level where I can still say I'm healthy, but only just. I know I will like myself more at that weight (whether I'll be happy enough is the question) so it will be a case of maintaining that once I get there.

I think that's a realistic goal, then :) All I know is, unless something drastically changes in my thinking there's no way I'll be able to stay as I am now :(

Thanks

[Noumi]

That's gonna be up to you. You've got to start thinking that your perfect the way you are and you dont need to be thin. That's the only advice I can give you...
Good luck ^^

[Maria527]

Well personally, I think it is unfair of your therapist to tell you not to lose anymore weight if you are not satisfied with where you are. The therapist should help you reach a healthy goal by doing it in a healthy manner.

How tall are you and male or female?

[shayyy333]

You need to realize what truley makes you beautiful and special, what makes your life worth living. See the person on the inside, not the outside. Beauty or being thin does not change YOU. Make a list of the things you love in life, the things your good at, or things that make you happy. Remind yourself everyday how wonderful you are, and how happy you can be when your NOT starving yourself of putting all your focus and effort into your body.

[averageguy]

Ive pretty much hit a sticking point in my recovery. I've managed to really cut down the b/p ing and seem to finally have control over what I eat and when.

The problem is, this has led to me restricting more, because I finally feel like I can. All I've ever wanted is to lose weight and be thin, and now I feel like I have a chance at getting there. But of course, this isn't really recovery. For that, I realise now, you have to get rid of the whole lot, which means getting rid of the desire to be thin aswell. My therapist has basically just said that if I'm still trying to lose weight he can't really help me any more. I have to decide to get rid of this dream and accept the weight I am at, which is 'normal' for my height.

I can't though. A huge part of me wants to get better and to just to be able to enjoy life, and I don't want to have to quit therapy (but staying there would just be wasting his time) but there's this huge part of me that still thinks my life will be so much better if i get thin. i cannot accept myself the way I am now, I disgust myself too much. I know life will be better thin, but that's not recovery... so... how do you lose the desire to get thin? That's the only way I can do this :(

You're trying to reach a goal. It's compulsive. You don't know why you do it.

Chances are that you've been hypnotized. I'd see a hypnotherapist about undoing the spell.