Why does he treat me like this? RAAAAANT.

[CJG]

My best friend, 'P' and I have been friends for 6 years, and joined at the hip for about 4. We used to do everything together, developing a love for musicals and always travelling to London and stuff like that.
Now he treats me like shit! Last night he was going to use a fake ID to come clubbing and none of us wanted him there as we would all get into trouble for it... I stayed out of it, yet he text ME with abusive texts out of everyone else who shouted at him etc.
He knows he can get to me with whatever he says and I just get upset, he likes getting a response because he is actually so cruel. I've spoken to him many times and things change and its like nothing ever happened, and I forget how rubbish I feel when hes a bitch. But I hate people being angry with me so I'm always the first one to apologise or get the conversation going, and he knows I cant stand it, so he never gives in cos he knows I will, I just cant help it, because I value him as a friend too much.

His cousin just moved to our school and now he spends 24/7 with her literally, all the stuff we used to do he does with her, and I tell him this and he says 'But YOU'RE my best friend' when I'm obviously not because he tells her things, spends every hour of the day with her and just basically worships her.

I'm fed up with always jumping through hoops for him but him not doing it for me but the time we do spend together is amazing, I love it.

I even told him about my ED in the hopes that he would just go a bit easier on me, and lighten up and understand why I get so upset and annoyed.
I just feel like I can be replaced whenever. makes me feel two feet tall, which I dont need

sorry, rant. been a crap day..

[Jacklinger]

That reminds me of my best friend. His name was Michael. We were close friends and visited each other everyday as kids. We played in the empty lots and waterways of the neighborhood we lived in. We always hung out together at recess time in school.

Then in high school, something changed. He was always hard to find, and never seemed pleased to see me when I did find him. He would hang out with other guys in an obscure part of the campus during recess and morning hours, and I finally found him and met up with them for a couple of days in a row. Then they vanished, having picked a new hangout without telling me. So I eventually found them again, and again they vanished. Well, even I wasn't so dense to misunderstand the hint. For whatever reasons (probably because I was fat and ugly and hurt his coolness factor) he didn't want anything to do with me anymore.

His priorities changed. I used to be one, but then I wasn't. He had been my friend for 6 years and I didn't know what to do after that. I felt very sick for a while and wanted to throw up. I felt like I had nothing if I had no friends. I did eventually make some friends again later in life, but none of them were ever as close as Michael had been. I spent all 4 years of high school basically waiting for bells to ring all by myself. No one to talk to, nothing to do, except wait, and hope life got better after graduation.

Your friend sounds like his priorites have changed also. If he truly believes you're his best friend, he will prove it on his own. There's no need to pursue him. If he does not show it, then all you can do really is miss him.

I'm not sure why he seems infatuated with his cousin unless he's in love with her. Seems strange.

[Kenzie1]

people are just mean and they change not always for the better unfortunately. i know because i lost all of my friends this past year :(

[CJG]

He wouldnt love her as he's gay. Although we do live in Norfolk, UK and everyone thinks that everyone here is inbred hahaha. But no. Its just annoying, I forever feel like I'm seeking his approval, and the thought of not having him as a best friend breaks my heart but he doesnt seem to care. I think you're both right, his priorities have changed. Hes a different person who has no time for me.

Sorry to hear about your friend Micheal, I really do understand how you must have felt.

Thanks for the responses guys :)
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