should i tell??

[Kashigolean]

i posted a similar thread, but i was wondering whether i should tell my bestfriend about my ED. shes coming over tonight for a sleepover and i want to tell her then, but if i need to i can do it someother day.

also do you guys think there's anything i should do/prepare before i tell her?

POLL!!

[Sapphire]

i could not answer your pole because my situation doesnt fit lol

why do you want to tell your girlfriend? does she Need to know? are you planning on moving to the next level with her? are you looking for acceptance? are you looking for her to help you "recover"?

you know what problems your ED has caused in the past... how would her knowing benefit her? you... i get wanting to be honest and wanting acceptance for who you are and things about yourself (good and bad)...

maybe try and let her know slowly...

i mean if you take little steps, then you will see how shes reacting, and that will tell you to share a little more or to stop there. (it didnt work with my hubby because things are basically black or white with him, there is no middle ground).

my husband does not understand my ED... he doesnt understand the b/p part...

hubby detests that i binge (purge who knows) and gets really mad at me.

however he totally supports my restricting and fasting...

hubby was quite anoyed at me when he found out i had an ED.

i mean he riped up one side of me and down the other for 2 days... he was wicked bent.

i couldnt understand why because with my ED and all... ive lost a lot of weight and he is really proud of me for doing it... so whats it matter if i have an ED or not right?

the other reason he was totally pissed is because i let him believe that i was eating proper healthy foods in reasonable proportions.

like i said, he is very high and approving of the restricting/fasting.

hes know for about maybe 2 1/2 months now...

hes finally stopped giving me a hard time about it for the most part. he doesnt encourage me to eat, if anything he'll see me about to eat something and ask me "are you trying to gain the weight back? or do you really think you should be eating that?" ...that shit helps me and pisses me off at the same time, so its ok

if i had it to do over... would i tell him or hint around... ummm, No i dont think so... and it would be for the same reason i didnt tell him when we met and were dating... i didnt want him to look down on me or think im weak or stupid etc... I have real bad self esteme problems lol

oh and my husband is my best friend :)

i hope this helps some :)

hugz

[Kashigolean]

lol, im not sure how you "move to the next level" if shes already my best friend. im not in love with her, even though im bi. lol.

good point, about the whole "does she really need to know" deal

thanks for giving me something to think about and thanks for helping me!

[Boy_cano]

i just love polls, so i voted.

i voted "they understood but frequently tried to get me to eat stuff".

but my situation with this wasn't really normal when i told the person...

[Sapphire]

what i meant by "next level" just meaning in a romantic way... thats all

and im glad i can help :)