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angel.eyes...
01-04-2010, 11:07 AM
my boyfriend has just got home from work and told me that he is going to jersey to work away for two weeks.

am so sad, i wanted to burst into tears and i was trying to keep my tears in but they just kept dripping out. (hes upstairs so he doent know i am crying)

i really dnt want him to go but its work so even if i ask him not to go he wudnt be able to not go anyway so its pointless me even mentioning it and posibley causing an argument.

il miss him too much, i see him every day and he more a less stays about 6 nights a week every week. i will miss all my night time cuddles when i cnt sleep :(

and the other thing is what if he cheats, am scared he will find a gorgeous skinny girl over there and i wudnt even know if he had or hadnt. i do trust him.... but i actually dnt think u can trust anybody 100%.

the other thing is when we was on a break/split up about a year ago he cheated (wel its not cheating coz we werent together) but it sure felt like he had. and he lied about this and the only reason i found out was coz am so sneaking... but thats a different story.
then after we got bk together about 2 - 3 weeks later he had to work away in scotland and when he got home some number rang his fone and when he answered i cud hear a scotish girl!!!!!!! wel my heart sank and i was asking him who it was and he put the fone down on them. they rang bk and he wudnt answer so i was like answer it now or its over so he answered and it was her again and she went who is this so he said his name and she went i duno who u r, so i said ask who that is so he did and she said her name and he went i dnt no u.
but like what the fuck! they mite not of knew each other but why the hell did she have his number. and what a coincident hes been working in scotland and it was a scotish girl who got the wrong number! hmmm :(

so yeah this is exactally why i dnt want him to go :(

he came down stairs and seen me upset so i just sed it was coz i was really tired (i cry when am over tired and he knows that and he knows i havnt been sleeping well) but he wasnt convinced and hugged me and said he will miss me loads and that i best not forget about him... so at least i know hes worrying about me too even tho he has no reason to what so ever.

and i asked after the two weeks is that it and he said no i mite just b home for the weekend and then back there for 2 maybe 3 weeks! oTo view links or images in this forum your post count must be 1 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. am so upset.

hes the other side of the room now and has just gone i love u, ur my angel..

but nothin he says will make me feel better when hes away there.

sorry this is so long and if its bored u but i just need to talk to someone about it

xxx

AnneAndAna
01-04-2010, 12:06 PM
He won't cheat on you. You're not fat, you just think you are :) But you're right, you can't trust anyone 100%, but that's life! He obviously trusts you and you trust him, I'm sure he's afraid you might cheat on him as well, he said "you best not forget about me" which I guess is his way of saying he's afraid you might find someone better.
And remember: Us girls get really paranoid sometimes! Especially since lots of us on here have an extremely low self esteem, always thinking that our guys will find a "pretty and skinny girl" and leave us for her. But it's not like that. Sometimes it's just all in your head and you start imagining things.

You'll make it for 2 weeks, it will make your relationship stronger. As soon as you see him it will make you even happier because you've missed him so much, and it will teach you to learn to be more independent and rely on yourself more :) Be an independent woman who still knows how to love! That's why men love us - because we want them but don't need them although they NEED US!

Be strong, you'll make it! xxx

angel.eyes...
01-04-2010, 03:43 PM
thanks Anne, ur reply made sense and made me feel better...
i will miss him loads but it can only make us stronger i guess.
wer going to do somthing nice together on the weekend as well coz he goes on the monday, go go out somewhere nice and make the most of spending time together before he goes and it was his idea :)

hes been talking about working away for a while saying it was coming up so its not even out the blue. its not even that long 2 weeks... its just coz i dnt really spend much time with my friend i spend it all with him so il be abit lost without him. but at least i got all u guys to chat too :)
aswel his mum always cooks fatty high cal foods so at least i wont have to think up ideas how to avoid the meals for two weeks... thats the only good thing.

am feeling a little better about the whole situation even tho i know il be sad and miss him until he is home.... i hate the way am such a baby and always need lots of attention off him!! like i always wana hug but i think thats just coz am 9 times out of 10 miserable and he always manages to cheer me up even if its only a tiny bit.

he said there is 4 months worth of work there!!!! but all the lads he works with will proberly b takin turns going so ye he will be gone again after being home for a bit but oh well il just have to get thru it.

i am rambling on now...

xxx

musicstreet25
01-04-2010, 07:01 PM
I agree with anne, it will help the relationship honestly and show you how much you love him. He won't cheat, you are gorgeous! Be independent though, hang out with friends you haven't seen or do something new to keep yourself busy. And of course, you have all of us!

angel.eyes...
01-05-2010, 03:00 AM
thanks music,
i am going to keep myself busy while he is away so that i dnt get lonely. and i was stressing about going out with my friend on a upcoming weekend but as my boyfriend is away i am DEFINATLY not canceling. it wil do me good to enjoy myself with my friend :)

xxx

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