"I haven't eaten all day!"

[Static]

I really, really, really hate it when people are like, "I'm starving!" and "Oh man, I'm so hungry, I haven't eaten allllllll day!"

particularly
when it's total bullshit!

I usually just sort of ignore it, always let it slide because to react would be pointless, unhelpful, and sometimes ends up bringing the focus to the fact that I have an ED, which I don't want.

But really! One person in my life specifically comes to mind and it's getting hard not to roll my eyes every time they say that. Because it's like... Sure, you've "gone hungry all day" ... except for the bowl of granola & whatever else you had for breakfast. Which was probably more calories than I will eat all day. And the fact that it's only been like 4 hours since that granola...

AUGH. It totally shouldn't matter, I shouldn't care at all. It's just irritating sometimes. Especially when it's someone who knows I have an ED.

[ddi]

It really pisses me off. One of my friends has a tendency to do it if he misses lunch, even if he's eaten something earlier in the day. I know it's really petty or whatever, but if I say I'm starving (which I wouldn't on account of it drawing attention to me), I legitimately mean I haven't eaten for multiple days.

[Renaissance]

Blaaah I hate that too. My mom does it ALL the time and it irritates the crap out of me. She's always going "I need to eat or I'll pass out!" or "I'm STARVING I need food now!" right after she's had three candy bars and a few cans of diet pepsi.

[rosie]

I know how fustrating it is! My friend will go without food for an hour and be like "god im hungry. I'm gonna starve to death" and I would be sitting there and the last time I ate was 2 days ago and be thinking "really! really! your soo effing hungry! you just ate a pizza!! You have no idea what hungry is!"
but unlike you I dont have an ED, but some people are so thoughtless!

[Jacklinger]

I can sort of relate in a different way. When I hear someone complain that they feel lonely because they've not been on a date or had sex in a month, I used to think "try 10 years." I don't do that anymore though. It just made me bitter and angry and I got tired of feeling that way. It really is exhausting you know. Seems like a waste of energy, getting pissed at people with relatively minor problems.

These days I feel happy for them, happy that they don't have to know the pain of years and years of solitude. Why would I wish that on anyone? So now I smile when they say things like that, and they think I'm making fun of them, but I'm not. I just say, "don't feel bad, being alone isn't the end of the world, just feels like it." Or something like that.

Just because I can't always be happy doesn't mean others shouldn't. I'm not anorexic, but it seems to me, if I had a friend who complained about a little hunger, I'd give them any food I had and say "want this? I saved it specialy for you!" That way I wouldn't have to eat it and they wouldn't have to be hungry. It's a win-win, I suppose.

[Static]

Yeah, most of the time I just say, "Well then, you should probably eat something!" or if I have something I'll offer it up-- but the latter never works because then they'll just suggest *I* eat it insead, & I'd rather not.

& it doesn't actually get me that pissed off, but every now and then it does get under my skin, and earlier I was feeling really irritable.

Applies the same to your loneliness bit, I would think, Jack.

I mean, off the top of my head I can think of a few other places in my life this comes up-- namely sleep, when someone complains to me about how they only slept for six hours or something, I will usually just start walking away from them. I'd love to get six hours a night-- even most nights would be an improvement...

Just... ugh. I hate being annoyed. It annoys me.

[Vision Thing]

AUGH. It totally shouldn't matter, I shouldn't care at all. It's just irritating sometimes. Especially when it's someone who knows I have an ED.

There's no one single thing that should dictate how we feel. We're all a product of the lives that we have lived.

Have you considered that this person might be doing this BECAUSE they know you have an ED? In order to gain acceptance with you somehow? To try to feel like they can relate to you?



I don't do that anymore though. It just made me bitter and angry and I got tired of feeling that way. It really is exhausting you know. Seems like a waste of energy, getting pissed at people with relatively minor problems.

Yeah, it's something I always find myself bitter about and it's really hard to control, but once you've heard one person complain, you've heard them all and you can just tune it out most of the time.