How Can I Help

[Thomas28]

Is There advice i can give to a love one to help her out during a eating disorder
my gf and i have been dating for some time now and she has told me resonantly she has problems with eating and her weight. when she was in her early teens she also had this problem it became a serious issue because no one would listen and help her. i don't want this to happen again i want to help im just not sure what the right thing to say or do and i don't want her to think in insensitive. plz help if any one can.

Thomas28

[xAnaWingsx]

I know how that feels, if it wasn't for my Spanish teacher I wouldn't have gotten help. I'll tell you what she's done for me.

When I'm ranting and carrying on about the most foolish things you can possibly think anyone would ever say all she does is listen and encourage me to eat.

That's really all you can do if it's anorexia she's dealing with.

But if it's bulimia, just encourage her to do something else rather than binge, like for instance: balance a check book, take up a hobby...

you see what I'm saying?
Also go to chat.healthyplace.com and go to the Eating Disorders room, the first one not the second one, if there is a bunch of proana ppl in there try later. You'll know by the convo.

The best times are between 10AM and 9PM that's when most of the prorecovery ppls are in there.

I hope this helps you out.
xAnaWingsx

[Thomas28]

it is very good to know that i can find ppl that know how to help
i want to be a good boy friend and help her. hopefully every think works out
thank for ur story and ur advice.

[xAnaWingsx]

You're very welcome.;)

Want to here something ironic? lol.

My spanish teacher was right behind me while I was typing that XD! :D

[xxs]

my bad if i'm too late with my reply
i'm new you see :)

i won't be much of a help if it's bulimia she's dealing with,
but i can relate to her if it's anorexia.
the best thing you can do for her is to just listen to what she says,
and make it obvious you are there for her all the time..
but without pressing her to tell you things.

believe me, the worst thing you could do is to try and force food on her,
even though you're wanting the best for her, it just doesn't work like that.

it's hard to judge,
obviously because we don't know her or how close you are,
but they key is making sure she knows you're 100% behind her.