Another date today

[Jacklinger]

I have another date today. This time with a different woman than the one I mentioned before. I'm meeting her at a park. She outclasses me in every way and I'm a bit suprised she expressed interest in me. (has more college, more money, looks better, younger, etc)

I'm going to give her a xmas present too; it's a scented candle. If she doesn't like me she can throw it at me afterwards.

[lovebexs]

aw, i hope you have fun :]
post back later and let us all know how the date goes!! xo

[Sapphire]

Jack you so funny! if she doesnt like you she wouldnt go out with you to begin with lol she wont through the candle at you!!! hahaha

i hope you have a good time and do let us know how it goes :)

have fun!

[Jacklinger]

Annnd I'm back. Shortest date I've ever been on so far. She's a very thin girl with long auburn hair. Vegan. Did I mention she was thin. She was very thin. I found it to be very cute how small she was. But I didn't have much time to admire her because she took me up a 45 degree incline of a walking trail up the side of mountain to an observatory so we could see the view of the city.

I do get exersize everyday, but this was brutal. It made me feel like I was so out of shape. Holy crap what a workout. I wasn't able to hardly talk at all that whole time because I was breathing too hard. Once we got to the top, the view actually was very nice. We talked a little bit but she said she had to go before we could really discuss anything, or get to know each other. So back down we went.

I only got to spend an hour with her and I'm not sure she found me very impressive. I did get a parting hug, but I think it was out of pity. She did say she wouldn't mind staying in touch though. I feel like I let her down, she was the one who asked me out actually and she probably feels like she got ripped off.

I gave her the scented candle and she said she liked it. It did not get thrown at me but I think she considered it.

I actually liked her, just not sure she liked me. She's really introverted and low key like me and I really liked that about her. But unfortunately her standards might be out of my reach too.

If only people would lower their standards...

Now my legs ache from that climb...

At least I got to see the park she recommended. It was very nice and I'm definately going back there as soon as I get the feeling back in my legs! The view from the top of that mountain was amazing.

[Sapphire]

sorry it didnt turn out as well as you hoped.

atleast the veiw was good :)

staying in touch... hummm....

well atleast you didnt spend too much money on the gift.

it sounds like your still friends so thats kewl

where did you meet her? just curious...

(you might want to take a bath for the legs... hot water will help)


so, heres the question of the night: whos next and whats she look like?

[Jacklinger]

I wish I had a bath tub. I only have a shower stall. We met at a big park/nature area near the zoo and we walked all the way up to the observatory at the top. Or do you mean how did we find each other originally? I'm using a dating website. I've sent out lots of messages to girls that are considered a match for me and the two I've gone out with so far are the only one's who replied with a nice message.

I have no other dates lined up at the moment. These 2 were pure luck. I'm hoping one of them will want to go out with me again.

[Jacklinger]

Great ideas here - thanks for sharing peeps.

Ty for not posting a wall of spam. But I don't think this is the best place to try to sell kites.

[Sapphire]

thats right... i seem to remember you saying something about that before...

i see comercials for them all the time and they look like they would be good at matching people up. my mum was part of one in the 80's with no computers and she got hooked up with some weird people. one guy was really kewl and wanted us to move to NYC. i had a fit and said no way. i was terrified of going to school in NYC lol

anyway...

people are probably real busy with the holidays and families, and im sure youll get hits from some nice other girls :)

which girl did you like the most?

ask her out again //poke :)

what happened to the step? have you seen her over the holiday?

[Jacklinger]

It's hard to say which one I liked the most. I enjoyed talking to #1 (almost typed her real name) but #2 seemed more soul-mate material, except for the fact she's a strict vegan who likes to climb mountains. So at this point, the one I like best, is the one who replies to my follow-ups first. :D

I'm just very easy to get along with, but a deep connection is hard. I'm not sure why, I'm not sure there's a whole lot to me to have a deep connection with. I think if I could just get one to spend enough time with me, she would grow to like me, but they never feel much incentive to spend a lot of time with me. I'm just too nice and boring I guess.

Who is "the step"? Do you mean my step-sister-in-spirit? Yeah I see her almost every week and just had xmas dinner with her today. We talked alot yesterday, or the day before (can't remember) about dating. She was impressed that I got 2 dates in 1 week and lamented that she hasn't been going out at all. But then mentions a guy she's been seeing. I was confused so I asked her to clarify. I thought "seeing" someone was the same as "dating." She explained that it's just some guy with a great body she likes to sleep with and have fun with off an on, but he's not serious BF material. I wanted to tell her that I'd give an arm to have someone that liked me enough to do that with me, because it's better than being completely alone all the time. She seems to see dating as something she should do, but hasn't been, and I see it as something I must do, or else be alone forever.

But when you look as good as she does, I guess random men just fall from the sky right into your bed. And for us fat people, most nights (more like all nights) are lonely and desolate. I think about the only GF I ever had, and of course it was during a period when I was thin because of the heavy labor at my low-wage stocking job. Even when I found out she didn't really love me, I still missed her. Having a warm body next to your at night was better than nothing.

I was perfectly fine being alone for years. I'm not sure what's changed recently. I guess it's just age. I have to lose this extra weight so I can find someone. Yeah people are shallow, but there's nothing I can do about that. Usually after someone truly gets to know me, they're not so shallow anymore afterwards anyway.

I've noticed my step-sis has changed a bit over the years I've known her. She's become more thoughtful and introspective and likes spending time with me now. When we first met I don't think she thought much of me. But I always liked her.

Oh, she asked me if I would like to buy a house with her today. I don't think she was serious, so I just said "sure!" lol. Very funny.

[Sapphire]

well i dont think girls or guys that have 'sex buddies' are very smart with aids and vd's all over the place. thats just my opinion though.

she might just be trying to make you jealous too (that sounds more like it). next time you see her, ask her if shes ready to go to the bank for a mortgage and see what she says. i mean she keeps coming out with things, through something back at her and see what she does :) might be very interesting.

... the other two girls, ask them both out again, they both might say yes :)

back to the step... why not tell her your looking to be in a relationship and does she know anyone she thinks might be interested in you. that leaves the door wide open for her to step in or suggest a friend. i think shes really got it for you though.

[Jacklinger]

So it's been several days since my last date now and neither girl has replied to my follow up emails asking if we could go out again. I don't think they're going to. I think the problem in both cases was my weight. I think I'll wait until I've hit my goal to try again.