e.d. and ur bf/gf

[angel.eyes...]

if ur bf or gf know about ur e.d i was wondering how it affects ur e.d. if it does.

as well... if say u was lying together cuddling and they put there hand under ur top and feel u back, sides, stomache do u move there hand or leave it??? so how does ur e.d affect ur relationship

xxx

[Priscilla]

this one guy always used to like, grab or poke my stomach
and i would get super embarrassed and tell him not too and that i didn't like it
but he wouldn't stop, he just didn't understand why i didn't want him too.
It was fucking annoying thinking back on it.
:mad:

[angel.eyes...]

god that is so annoying!!!!! u shuda poked him back in the eye lol xx

[Priscilla]

you actually just made me laugh out loud!
wish i'd thought of that at the time d:

[anonomousmia]

yup i always move hands wen im lying on my side so my stomach is flopping down to one side!! fricking hate that.

my bf knew about my ED but I didn't like to talk about it all the time and share my thoughts/feelings and this frustrated him. and he said he couldn't help me because of this. and he said that he couldn't do anything more for me, especially if i didn't help myself. and he broke up with me 3/4 weeks ago. still cry about it now. fucking gutted.

[Vision Thing]

My bf will touch me and hold me wherever. He doesn't know about any problems I have towards food but knows I want to lose weight. I assume he thinks that if he holds me more that I'll feel like someone loves me for my body, but really it just makes me uncomfortable and self conscious.

Poor anonomousia! I don't know what to say to try to make you feel better :(

[twink12]

my gf knows I suffer from Bulimia and I feel bad for her because she puts up with so much. I feel bad but duno really because its hard to just stop all ofa sudden especially after years and stuff but I know she gets frustrated by it esp as we live together

xxxx

[anaxmyxpassion]

He doesn't know but it hurts to keep this away from him. Eventually he will find out and he will send me to treatment, I want to keep that away as far as possible

[Princess_Ellie]

Hi, i'm Ellie

My ex-bf knew all about my ED but still tried to touch me in all the places that I hated (love handles, stomach), he said that I would feel better about them if he touched them (I didn't). He made me go into recovery for our relationship (we were together for about 18 months) When I came out he left me saying he couldn't cope that was 3 months ago. I still miss him everday.

[MichelleMischa]

My bf don't know about this side of me, but he knows that I wanna lose weight. We havne't had sex yet, because I'm not thin enough to that. If we did it now it would be... Eeewh!!
And I don't really want him to touch me.. ;s

[Jacklinger]

He probably wants to touch you. Are you afraid he would be disgusted by your body? Or do you just not want to be touched in general?

[sjgirl]

my bf does not know, he always thinks im up to something, he would freak if he found out...i think he wants me to be fat, he always tries to get me to eat a lot

[angel.eyes...]

thank u for all ur replys, i can relate to them alot.

jacklinger if that msg was for me well i would never have any body else touch me!!! and as for my boyfriend i dont mind him touching me but i just panic and think omg he will think am fat and have to kinda wriggle away without him noticing.

xx

[MichelleMischa]

Who do you ask?:)

[Cinderellinger]

My boyfriend doesn't know about my ED but he does get suspicious sometimes when I have a sudden drop in weight or refuse to eat anything. We have a very healthy sexual relationship though, despite my own self-consciousness.

[fly away with me]

well, my boyfriend was actually anorexic when he was in middle school, although he's (mostly) over it now. he relapsed over the summer and lost 20 pounds in 3 days [he won't tell me how..) he's known for...hmm probably a year now about my ed. although i've been ana for like 4 years.

i do move his hands when they're on my waist, thighs, upper arms, butt. but he's learned not to touch me there. he understands, i guess.

to keep track of how much weight i'm losing he put his hands around my thigh and sees how far up he can move them.

[HanaHollywood]

men ay ay ay :(

i never get close enough to a guy to allow cuddling, even with the guy i lost my v to i didnt care about even though we went out for like 2 years, i just wasnt botherd,
i dont care about men they piss me off i rather just get what i want and them leave, its always my rules, my idea, their place
and it sounds bad but i dont care

my last proper b/f i cared about was a wanker towards me he broke me up with my bf befor him and then dumped me after a month, and i hadnt been dumped since i was like 12, it was crushing cause i'd finally opend up after sooo long and he wasnt interested i felt used and rejected and i haventt got close to anyone since

i use and abuse, but id rather that than bored and ignored

that went on for a lot longer than i planned hmmm im sorry to dump all that on you but i guess that my ED really prevents me from getting close to any one friends, guys, no one in the real world seems to get it i guess and it gives me a bad name witch i don't think is fair as they dont know me so who are they to judge

[Sapphire]

i just edited everything i wrote.

i dont let my husband touch any part of my body except for my breasts which are partially covered with a lacy thingy that hangs down and covers my tummy, in addition... he only touches them if i encourage it. otherwise its totally hands off.

i touch him.

he doesnt try to touch me at all any more which is fine i guess :o