"ask yourself 'how do I feel' before you binge"

[sushi?]

I fucking cant stop binging. like shit im getting obese. And the only advice goddam people are giving me is "ask yourself 'how do I feel' before you binge". Like wtf, I dont feel anything before I binge except for cravings and hunger. ITS NOT HELPFUL PWRGFBGF
But seriously im freaking out, what can I do? should I tell my parents? I cant keep living like this.

[Tam.]

Actually remember how gross and fat you feel just AFTER you've binged and ask yourself if it's really worth it. I mean sweets and junk food taste nice obvs but if you're like me and can't control yourself around them then they just have to go.
If i was you i'd tell my parents i wanted to eat healthier and i was having problems cutting out junk from my diet, so if it's possible they buy none or maybe less of it.
Good luck, i know how horrible you feel. Hate the binge cycles. Trying to get out of one now, just halfway succeeding, better than nothing i guess :(

[Bathory]

I know what you mean, it's like "I feel like crap, that's why I'm throwing up."
I told my mum because I've got a good relationship with her, she took it well but was obviously confused and upset. If you have a parent you feel comfortable talking to about it I suggest you tell them. Or if you don't feel like telling them yet maybe talk to your doctor first. It depends on what you feel comfortable with. I told a friend of mine first who was going through a similar thing.

Good luck :)

[Matthewww]

Well there are a few sides to binging:
1. Feel depressed + comfort food = binge
2. I'm fucking starving + food = binge
3. What the fuck + good food = binge/purge

I'd tell your parents if you really feel that deep about it. You won't get better on your own. It'll be like trying to drive a car blindfolded.

[sushi?]

I don't know if im depressed though. I've been binging at least once a day for a month so I'm not starving. And I do attempt to purge if I feel the need.
Ok starting now i will not binge ever again.

[Matthewww]

I don't know if im depressed though. I've been binging at least once a day for a month so I'm not starving. And I do attempt to purge if I feel the need.

Then I believe you fit in with category 3.

:P

[sushi?]

goddam, i cant even purge righ like i get out 1/1000000 of the food DX. If the binging doesnt stop it might get worse though. I just need to stop eating.... so.... much.

[Matthewww]

Is there any certain type of 'diet' you follow (or eating pattern in general)? Like low carb or low fat or anything like that?

[sushi?]

once about a month and a week ago I did nothing but eat breakfast and then drink diet coke for 10 days. I got down to 112lbs, my lowest weight :(. Then I went on vacation and binged like crazy.
Then I went to camp where I ate three meels and two snacks everyday but still binged. Which shows that even if I do eat normal I'm still gonna binge.

[Matthewww]

Then it might be a little tougher to figure out the underlying cause behind your binging.
I know for a fact that I binge because I'm either sad, angry, stressed or just bored. I can say for a fact that when I was eating the 'desired amount of food for what my BMI should be' I don't think I ever wanted to binge. Lol

[sushi?]

I think some messed up part of me wants to see how fat I can get. But then another part of me wants to see how skinny I can get. Thus, binge-starve cycle.

[Pygmy]

Maybe you're deficient in something, and that's why you're binging. Like, try to only binge on healthy foods. If you crave carby stuff like cereal or something (I was terrible with cereal) go for bananas and brown bread or something, if you want something sweet have fruit instead, if you want something salty have salty carrots or something, and if you want something fatty have nuts. And eat loads of vitamins and minerals. It does still make you gain weight but trust me it's not as much as you'd gain sticking to junk-food binges. I did this for a while (I'm pretty sure I was so compelled to binge because my body was so depleted of certain nutrients) and eventually the binge urge just dies down. I binged on junk for 5 months and I'm fine after 2 months of healthy binges. (I got pretty heavy too. :( ). Hope this helps, because I told my parents I needed help and they did f*ck al. xxx

P.S. Trying to restrict makes it worse. You've got to block out that voice in your head and ignore it completely. Make yourself eat normal/over-normal amounts and let your body repair itself. Gain the weight, then lose it with a clean slate and a healthy body. I know it's hard force-feeding yourself. :(

[m!lk]

I think some messed up part of me wants to see how fat I can get. But then another part of me wants to see how skinny I can get. Thus, binge-starve cycle.

I actually relate to that

[webby]

P.S. Trying to restrict makes it worse. You've got to block out that voice in your head and ignore it completely. Make yourself eat normal/over-normal amounts and let your body repair itself. Gain the weight, then lose it with a clean slate and a healthy body. I know it's hard force-feeding yourself. :(

I totally agree with that, after i couldn't stop binging, i spoke to my fiance who really helped me, i guess im really lucky to have him,you should look around to someone close that loves u and care, a friend, family anyone and you should ask them to help you. When i asked for his help what worked for me was, he used to ring me and ask me what id eaten, and if i felt a binge, id call him and just speak to him to try and resist that urge, as silly as it sounds, id say to him.. I ate this at 9am.. its 11 am am i meant to be hungry? or am i just thinking im hungry? then he'd say eg, you shouldn't be really hungry, but have an apple and u should eat at 1. (if you catch my drift). For the first few weeks i cant count the number of times i cried to him, to sleep, how awful i felt, but its been like 2 months or so now, and its starting to get better, i've been restricting lately, and thats just made me go down back to wanting to binge! My advice would be, ask someone to help you plan your meal times, and whenever u want to binge, speak to that person i know it sounds easier said than done, but it cant hurt to try? Good luck :)

[redspottedpurple]

i believe that the bingeing is caused by you subconsciously being afraid of having to starve yourself again (at least that's true for me).

and telling your parents might not be the worst idea. you're clearly suffering and they might be able to help you. i told my parents pretty much everything the other day. they already knew but i never talked about it and it was actually quite relieving. it is also stressful as they want me to start therapy or go IP which is not really an option for me right now, yes, but they are really supportive and i haven't binged ever since i told them.

hope you're ok :)

[elzie]

I just....love food. LMAO.

[sushi?]

It's like when I'm binging I get a foodgasm.

[SisterSomeone]

I think some messed up part of me wants to see how fat I can get. But then another part of me wants to see how skinny I can get. Thus, binge-starve cycle.


I actually relate to that

This ^^
Fat I remember clearly how I first started binging because I was already so skinny and some sick part of me found pleasure in seeing what would it feel to have those minor fat rolls on my belly like almost every other girl I know and how much fun I could have while doing it. Because binging was fun for me in the beginning. Now, if someone had told me that I wouldn't be able to go back... :(

[louder-now]

This ^^
Fat I remember clearly how I first started binging because I was already so skinny and some sick part of me found pleasure in seeing what would it feel to have those minor fat rolls on my belly like almost every other girl I know and how much fun I could have while doing it. Because binging was fun for me in the beginning. Now, if someone had told me that I wouldn't be able to go back... :(

Agreee with all of you. I basically haven't stopped eating for a minute since I went on a short vacation and then moved back to college. I know I've gained back everything I lost and probably more (forgot my scale!) but I barely even care cause I've just admitted to myself that people see me as fat, it's not just me (I am actually BMI 27-28). I mean I look pregnant right now soo there's no hiding it. So why not get fatter? xD
But seriously it sucks, I hope we can both get out of the binging cycle.

[Girlinterruptedallthetime]

I had the same trouble with this question and my therapist helped me to understand it better and to understand what she was asking for..... How do I feel before I binge..... She wanted to know what I am feeling like.... I am feeling bored, tired, hungry, sad, stressed. Also what is it that I am doing right before I have a binge and we saw that I had a pattern of doing it when I was alone and bored and just trying to fill time and space with something. You may want to try and look up the book eat, drink and be mindful it helps a lot with trying to figure out what your feeling while your eating or right before you go and eat.

[SisterSomeone]

I think that the real question isn't what we feel before a binge, but after.

Different people binge for different reasons. Boredom, stress, hopelessness, exhaustion, happiness, sadness... you name it, there will be someone who's binged because of it.

Maybe it'd be better to ask ourselves what do we feel after we're done, and whether anything is worth of having that feeling of being out of control.

[Victorian]

-How do I feel?
-Bad.
-Good, now that we've established that... Wait, have I already eaten half a cheezecake?

Story of my life. I know perfectly well that I binge because I feel bad. I am bloody aware of it. I used to do it because it made me feel better. Yes, if I ever actually get to the point when I'm sitting in front of a pile of food, it's already too late to ask myself how I feel. That's why I keep myself away from binge situations with distractions and mental chains forged from willpower of adamantium.

But yes, what people actually should be saying is "Hey, do you want a hug? Oh, right, personal bubble. How about hitting the amusement park to make you feel better?"

[appetite-so-dangerous]

-How do I feel?
-Bad.
-Good, now that we've established that... Wait, have I already eaten half a cheezecake?

Story of my life. I know perfectly well that I binge because I feel bad. I am bloody aware of it.

LOL! Yeah, I find the asking myself before a binge to be utterly pointless. My binges either fall into the "Oh, sh*t, I've been over-eating way too much here", or the "F*ck I just want to binge!!!". If they are the first, I never had the opportunity to as myself. If they're the second I'm just so damn intent on binging I don't care. Yeah, I know I feel bad, which is why I'm doing it. I also know it will make me feel worse afterwards. But for a little while I can just enjoy the food (not that I really do, most of the time), then I can enjoy the aspect of self destruction.

[lepeep37]

Can I just mention here that I was the one who catalyzed this topic, as I had originally suggested to the OP that she start journaling and paying close attention to her hunger cues..I know that in light of my current BED struggle, I'm a major hypocrite..but simply I thought she might benefit from attempting to implement "mindful eating". I suppose I shouldn't had meddled in her situation, and I'm sorry I was of no help.

[ancreatur]

I told my mom about my eating disorder. At least someone knows, right?

[sushi?]

Lepeep- you didn't start this at all, lmao. You suggest to write about how I feel during the fast, not before I binge. As you already know now this was about something else.