do you like sex, hate sex, or don't care? and why?

[LAD]

i've found that i have quite the complicated relationship with sex. admittedly it feels good, but the intimacy scares me (especially how you are forced to confront your body) and i often avoid it. you cannot hide anything about your body when you are being intimate with another person and i hate that, but i'm not sure if i hate it completely. sex can also be a good escape, depending on my mood. i guess none of these are especially good reasons to have sex though...eheh. :rolleyes:
what do you guys think? what are your experiences with it? i'm trying to work through why i feel this way and hearing other's stories, opinions, and ideas on the general subject would help.

[Vision Thing]

Feel exaclty the same....can't live with it, can't live without it

Whoops and now I sound like a creep :o

[bridget]

I didn't use to like showing my body during sex when i was over 110lb and used to wear corsets and things so i liked it but not the omg body bit lol and now im under 110 im ok i remember looking in the mirror and thinking well compared to what i used to be and me and oh have been togther for 3 years so its comfortable and he keeps commenting on omg your really slim now so i love it now and feel really confident

[CountingRibs]

I adore sex with my boyfriend :)
Although he loves the sight I me I detest it, I pray for the day when I am alot thinner and can 'dress up' for him :) That's my long term goal anyway and hopefully one day I will achieve it

xx

[nathrakh]

Im a virgin. But sex is both my biggest fear, but also a big desire.

[Vision Thing]

^^^Hopefully you'll be able to find someone to understand you, that's the think you really need for the first time. Someone who's equally a bit nervous, but isn't afraid to laugh a little

[OliviaLovee]

Sex is just complicated.
I love it, I love being close to someone and have someones heat on me.
But I hate being so exposed! I hate someone seeing my body! I love it and I hate it.

Heehee(:

[anonomousmia]

im a little different to many of u guys.

last yr, after developing my e.d and depression i became proper 'kinky' and i used to use sex to make myself feel better. so i'd do a strip tease for the guy i was seeing, put on diff. types of music, even tried role play. because I knew that even though my body wasn't good for me, he 4t i looked great, and this made me feel better. so yeah theres my 2 cents :-)

i like sex, its an escape for me, although now my bf broke up with me last week, i will not be getting any. i was really close to my bf, and loved to dress up 4 him, dance 4 him etc, and again, because he loved it so i felt sexy etc. and some times we had sex soooo slow and it was the most intimate thing i had ever experienced. *sigh* miss him xx

[angel.eyes...]

i like having sex with my boyfriend, it makes me feel good when he gets turned on with the way i look. and i like it when he touches my body and says am gorgeous :-)
even tho i am not happy with my body he always makes me feel better about myself :-)

xxx

[cksummer]

i've learned that although most of us our insecure with our own bodies, guys absolutely love women's bodies, even if there are some imperfections. as long as you don't tell your guy what you are insecure about, he won't even notice. he will just LOVE your body and will love the fact that he's gettin some ;-)

so act like you are confident in front of him, even if you aren't. you will enjoy sex more if you aren't constantly worrying about your body and how you look. i know it's hard. doing it in dark helps.

by the way, sex is amazing.

[thisislove]

Sex makes things sooooo complicated!!!
I cant have sex if ive eaten before, it makes me feel sick and I cant concentrate and dont enjoy it at all, I hate looking at myself and showing myself, especially cz i hate my body.
It was one of the major reasons why me and my boyfriend of two years broke up, cz i hated having sex with him, it had nothing to do with the fact that i didnt like him, i loved him. But i had major intimacy problems..I blame it all on our good friend ana :)

[Priscilla]

sex just hasn't been a great experience for me yet
how depressing ):
i get bored quite easily aswell
*blush*

[never_skinny]

I have a weird relationship with sex. I love it with my boyfriend, but now I've gotten bigger it's less fun than it once was. I spend half the time covering myself up rather than enjoying myself.

30kg ago, I loved sex. I used to dominate in the bedroom and I loved giving head. Now all of that has stopped. I CHOOSE to go on the bottom, and I get bored giving head. I don't like to include anyone else in the bedroom either.

I feel like it's falling apart. If I don't like my body soon, I'll never enjoy sex again.

[bulimic/alcoholic]

To be honest... I could go with out it. It really doesnt do much for me. Im always trying to get my bf to hurry up and finish... i think i have one of thoses non pleasuring boxes! hahah I would rather just do it all myself.. atleast i can finish.

Sex also kinda makes me feel gross.. even tho i love my bf (fiance).. ive had a sexual trama situation when i was 17 so i still cant get over it. :(

[Sapphire]

sex has always been screwed up for me. i have never been able to orgasm with a guy inside of me...

with my husband it gets really anoying because he thinks having sex it too time intensive most of the time because it takes me forever to orgasm if i even do at all.

well in the past bunch of months my weight has been going down and i have been letting him see less and less of my body. i wont even get undressed infront of him any more and sex is out of the question... i dont want anything to do with it at all. im so discusted at the way i look, i cant bear it and i definately cannot let him see me.

now the funny thing here is, he doesnt seem to have a problem with this at all. remember haveing sex is a time sink as far as hes concerned.

WTF!!!

i dont know which one of us is more fvcked up here.

now if i get any urge, i take care of it myself and be done with it.

at this point in time, i never want to have sex again... but that means never being in his arms and him kissing me either. the only time he ever really holds me or give me more than just a peck of a kiss if that, is when we have sex... so im screwed either way i look at it... my problem, his problem...

i guess if we dont have sex and dont really ever kiss but a peck and rarely ever get a hug... whatever. pointless talking about this.

[KRIS]

Sex disgusts me : - ( i used to like it though . .. .

[Priscilla]

i have to fake it every single time.
ha.

[Something Ethereal]

i've learned that although most of us our insecure with our own bodies, guys absolutely love women's bodies, even if there are some imperfections. as long as you don't tell your guy what you are insecure about, he won't even notice. he will just LOVE your body and will love the fact that he's gettin some ;-)

so act like you are confident in front of him, even if you aren't. you will enjoy sex more if you aren't constantly worrying about your body and how you look. i know it's hard. doing it in dark helps.

by the way, sex is amazing.

You are totally right! My boyfriend used to love my body and constantly compliment it... until the day we played 'what do you most hate about your own body' game (it's not really a game, more a weird pillow talk conversation.. which I suggest you all avoid!),and I pointed out all my flaws. He dismissed it but I insisted and then he glanced at the things I'd mentioned. I could see he hadn't focussed on them to the same level I had (i.e, he's normal, not a neurotic mess like me =p) and kinda looked surprised. He stopped complimenting my body as much afterwards. I don't think it was intentional and to be honest, and this totally sounds messed up and so victorian-cum-'1950s Surburban American Housewife', but that lack totally motivated me to work out more and eat healthier.
Thanks to that, I shed 2 inches on my waist and had a FLAT STOMACH for the FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE. His eyes nearly popped out of his head the first time he saw me naked afterwards! =P

That being said, 'I'm also one of those never have, never will girls', when it comes to the ol' mythical orgasm

[Valkry]

I love, love, love sex. I'm totally addicted to it and demand it several times a day from my boyfriend. I love everything about it. I love it in every position; oral, anal, vaginal, whatever I'll do it and I'll LOVE doing it!

And for some reason its the only time I don't feel insecure because my boyfriend LOVES curves and I finally have some (Ew, ew, ew :( ). But getting him off gets me off. In any case, its the only outlet I have for expressing the tiniest bit of confidence and self-esteem I have left in me. :p

[sjgirl]

im really insecure
i used to love having sex with my bf but now i hardly ever want to....he wants to all the time & sometimes we fight about or things are just tense bc of it. he thinks its bc im not into him anymore, which isnt really true. although i do think of leaving him...its complicated =[