The Only Real Cause of Depression - Being Spoilt ?!!

[Xgx]

Yeah, yeah... We all heard grumpy grannies saying that. But seriously ?!

Today I heard that phrase with some real ugly accusations VERY FIRST HAND from my gynecologist. SERIOUSLY ?! He shouted on me, said that the reason of my depression is being spoilt "princess on a pea", he accused me of having a "too easy" life and stuff.

HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW ME !!! Today I went to this particular person for the very first time in my life ! And yeah, since afterwards I have SO HUGE temptation to cut cut cut DEEPLY again, as I did for the past 5 (?) years and TRIED to recover.

He doesn't know ANYTHING and NOTHING has been said to him to think that way about me. What The Hell ?!?!? He doesn't know about bullying, he doesn't know my personality, childhood traumas, he doesn't know my relationships with my mother, who's NEVER satisfied with ANYTHING I do. He has NO idea of too many rejections in my life, about my eating disorder and self-esteem equal to zero. But this... this just put me lower than the line of "worth to even try to be alive". Yet again in my life. Suicidal. I am a piece of shit. I am a bitch.

And he is A DOCTOR, right ? Actually, he KNOWS about my "estrogen dominant/progesterone deficient" diagnosis, which can BY ITSELF lead to extreme anxiety, depression and mood swings... So, again... WHAT THE HELL ?!! Can ANYBODY explain this to me ? :( Am I really such a worthless spoilt bitch ? ;((

[The Aftermath]

Oh I can explain it to you nice and clear. He is a fucking idiot who shouldn't even have a medical degree.

I can't believe he said that!!! My head is going to explode because it makes me angry to see someone else's ignorance and stupidity making someone feel bad for something they can't control! You're right, he knows nothing about your personality or your life. He knows nothing about depression clearly! And he seems to know nothing about how to treat his patients. I hope you never have to go back to him.

[Xgx]

Well... I actually WILL have to go to him again ! :D Not funny at all. :( I just really hope he'll be completely shut the next time...

I'd never ever consider going to that asshole again if not my dumb-ish condition (which is also, supposedly linking to weight gain, so I, obviously, DO want to treat this as soon as possible. Damn ! :()

Thanx for the reply ;)

[The Aftermath]

Ohhh darn it. I hope he keeps his mouth shut! Maybe you can even build up the courage to tell him how offensive and hurtful he was the last time? Eh? Eh? ;) Haha no pressure. I know if I were you I would want to just get in and outta there as quickly as possible.

[Xgx]

Yeah, that's what I feel like ! Gonna suck it up, inhale all that sh*t and rush out.

[JaydeNJ]

I would have told him off. His specialty is gynecology, not psychology. He really should mind his own business and treat what you've been diagnosed with. You can report him to the medical association for behavior as well, I believe.

[elementofblank]

Oh I can explain it to you nice and clear. He is a fucking idiot who shouldn't even have a medical degree.

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Agreed.

[Arcadia]

omg what a douche

[Xgx]

You can report him to the medical association for behavior as well, I believe.

Oh, I don't think it would work that way in my country :D
Btw, they probably wouldn't do anything without a "certain" proof, right ? Since the only proof is through my ears to my memory... that couln't possibly be enough. :(

[samyelloww]

Wow, I would have been so pissed if someone had said that to me. Ugh. People suck sometimes. Did you say anything back? I would have wanted to cuss him out but been too much of a wimp lol

[Sunlight]

Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you...how can a doctor behave like that? I mean, people with depression already have enough problems without someone trying to make them feel even worse! And as you said, he doesn't even know anything about your life

[zebedeelovesme]

My mum's favorite sentence: depressed people are only depressed because they are self centered, if you stopped thinking about yourself all the time you'd feel fine.
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i think until people actually experience something themselves they can never really understand and are all too happy to thrust there own theories on you (thrust :l?)

[sylphide]

What a horrible, ignorant man! I'm so sorry he yelled at you like that. What a prick. I'd never go back, personally.

And, zebedeelovesme, I'm sorry your mum has a similar attitude. I think you're on the mark when you say that people who haven't experienced something often can never really understand. So many people are definitely all too happy to shove their theories down your throat, even when they're uninformed or ill-informed.

[degs]

If I were in your situation I would report that doctor. Those comments were totally unprofessional and humiliating, and he has absolutely no right to pass judgement - part of the Hippocratic oath.

[Xgx]

I've just told my mom I didn't want to go there again. She didn't care. I'll have to go.

[seaturtle]

You need to tell him he's a gynecologist, not a PSYChologist, therefore he should shut the hell up.

[jeudi]

Goodness, what an idiotic doctor! I've been depressed for years and never been spoiled. It's similar to how often people throw around the term "poor little rich girl" without any knowledge about ones past. Ridiculous!

[DefinitelyImperfect]

I would go in and say how you heard from a psychiatrist that your gynecological problem is caused by x, y, and z, and that the only way to cure it is (enter something random here), and when he says that psychiatrists have no idea what they are talking about in regards to gynecology, you could say something like, "oh, but you seemed pretty sure that you knew everything about psychology the last time you saw me, so I figured that it could go both ways". See what he thinks of that :)

[EllieMay]

What a douche fag. I agree with several of the other posters. Tell 'em that it's none of his buisness and the only thing he needs concern himself about is your current condition. Mutha***** haha Seriously though, I'm sorry that happened, people can be so ignorant.