Insensitive Friends...

[needrealhelp]

Has anyone else been in my situation, basically I was at the pub with a friend and we were talking about normal stuff, and then the conversation turned to how i am sometimes not happy and that I am like an emo. She said “I bet you cut yourself” as i don’t show my arms. I have never really cut myself although the thought has crossed my mind almost all the time. So I said back to her, "why, what if I was." she then turned round to me and said and I quote "nothing, carry on." I was in shock to know a good friend of mine would do nothing to help my situation if I was. At least I know who my friends are.

[Arcadia]

These situations pisses me off! Some years ago I told my best best friend about I had problems with depressions, panic disorders and had to take antidepressants. She was like “Are u serious, that only happens in movies eh? haha”. I thought she didn’t know what to say. If someone had told me something like that I would’ve not really know what to say either. But... I trusted her because she was my very best friend.

Then some weeks later I was at this party, where I met her brother. We were talking for a while then he said something like “ Btw, why are you drinking? I though you were taking these weird pills that makes you really drunk combined with alcohol? What are they for anyway, seems freakish.. Haha”. When there was alot ppl standing around and heard. Most humiliating thing EVER a “friend” has ever done to me...

She is not my friend anymore, in fact she is kind of my worst enemie. Are you sure you wanna spend time hanging out with that friend of yours thats so insensitive? You might get hurt, you know :(

[needrealhelp]

I don't want to, or her friends. You see while at university i socialise with her and her friends but they all are people i don’t like as they always talk about me behind my back and say I’m wired, and then act like they have done nothing. My course friends always ask why i hang around with them, but if i didn’t then i would have no one to hang around with and being lonely almost all the time, which would make things really difficult. Hopefully I will be getting a house with other people for the second year of university, and when the new semester starts I will be hopefully hanging out with them. I was going to get a house with her but i told no. She and her friends are not people i would want to share a house with.

[Arcadia]

Oh yeah i know what you mean. Before i had alot of friends, but they were so false and I didn’t really enjoy their company tbh. Now I have a few good friends, and the rest of the time im alone i do stuff like Im in this theatre society, sewing clothes. Or volunteerwork in studentskitchens and so on. It makes me feel better, than hang around with peopla that makes me feel bad. Maybe you have some similar students societies at your campus? Its a great opportunitie to make some new friends on your terms!

[needrealhelp]

The university will be doing fair for societies next week, so i will be going to them. But i find it hard to meet loads of people, one or two I’m fine but any more i just freeze. But i will try and see how it goes and here’s hoping it goes well.

[Arcadia]

Good luck <3 You have nothing to loose :) Feel free to msg me if u wanna talk

[wingspan]

Ugh god. This is why I can't relate to "normal" people, people who have never really encountered any serious problems or had serious issues in their life. Because they don't believe you when you talk about depression, cutting or ED's. Thanks to Hollywood ED's have become "cool" -___- and cutting has been reduced to simply being "emo" like its a fad.

[Fallenflower]

I totally hate those people. Once me and my friends were talking and one of my good friends mentioned that she (accedently) cut her finger that week and another one of my friends said "Cutter!" apparently they just don't care if it hurts anyone. Another time the same group of friends were joking about suicide and I said "That's nothing to joke around about! I know people who have commited suicide." people can be such insensitive jerks sometimes.

[vieja]

Once me and my friends were talking and one of my good friends mentioned that she (accedently) cut her finger that week and another one of my friends said "Cutter!" apparently they just don't care if it hurts anyone. Another time the same group of friends were joking about suicide and I said "That's nothing to joke around about! I know people who have commited suicide."

Um...I knew two people-one of whom I was quite good friends with who offed themselves, another one who tried really hard and gave himself a skull fracture(he's okay now-astonishingly so)...and I'm afraid I still SI when I'm depressed.

I nonetheless would make fun of all that, because making fun of horrible stuff has a certain therapeutic value...but I guess it's different, coming from an outsider, isn't it?

[slightlymental]

I can't handle when friends are like this. My very very best friends are like this, I figure I can be comfortable around them right? But if I am like changing in the same room as them and they see cuts on my legs they go "EMOOOOOOOOOOO" "CUTTERRR" it's really discouraging and just.. doesn't help the case. It sucks, I feel your pain.