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jess046
12-23-2010, 04:31 AM
I didn't know where else to post this as nobody else could possibly understand but other people with eating disorders...and since I don't know any in real life.

I really want to commit suicide. This isn't just a spur of the moment thing because I'm upset, I've been feeling like this for many months now. I just can't bear this lifestyle. I have nothing in my life to look forward to, so I just want to end it. I just wish I knew how. I don't want to cut myself or use pills because both are too volatile. That's the only reason why I haven't done it yet. I lack the means. The best I could think of is jumping off a high building, but even then I wouldn't know where to do it before I could get caught. I might try standing in front of a moving train, but I would have to make sure the area was completely empty which could be difficult.

6 months ago I was diagnosed with anorexia and taken to hospital. I've been force fed with a nasogastric tube, admitted into a mental hospital and now I'm home being forced to put further weight on by my parents and outpatient treatment team. I'm 17 so there's nothing I can do about it. I am completely alone. I just want to get back to a normal lifestyle- doing normal things and eating normally (i.e not shoving copious amounts of food down my throat to put on a measley 300g per week). I hate what this stupid eating disorder did to my life. I used to have everything. I'm back at my normal weight and I just want things to be as they were. But that's good enough for my stupid doctors and they're forcing me to put on more weight. And I just can't do that. Because I want to be the old me who was skinny and ate normally. I don't want to be anorexic and starving myself. Nobody gets that. I just need people to back off and give me space to breath and be a normal kid again- free of anorexia and anxiety about weight gain. Nobody seems to realise i'm just a kid and I can't handle all this pressure.

I have nothing left to look forward to but sitting at home eating copious amounts of food to put on weight that makes me hate my body. They won't let me go anywhere; they went let me see my friends, they won't let me get a job, they won't let me go to uni. And I can't handle it. It's too much stress. Putting on this weight to get back to my normal weight has been so hard and I can't handle it anymore. But I know they won't compromise and they're going to try and get me back in hospital. They can't get me into a general hospital as I'm not medically unstable, but I know my therapists are trying to convince my parents to dump me back at the mental hospital. And I won't go back there. Do they really think it's going to help me being put through more misery? These people have no fucking clue how to deal with me. They think making my life as miserable as possible will make me comply, but it just makes me more angry. So I have no choice. I'm too angry and depressed- this weight gain has been so hard and now they're pushing me too far. I just want it to be over. I know you'll all try to talk me out of it if anybody bothers to respond to this, but I hope there's someone who knows what I'm going through who can give me some useful advice. It's my life and choice to end it.

livelifemiserable
12-23-2010, 04:40 AM
Please, please do not go through with it. I suspect that you have been feeling this for a real long time, but we are here for you, even though you think and feel that no one cares and that you have nothing, you do. You have us, and we all care about you. If you committed suicide, you would hurt a lot of people, it would be a lot worse than the pain you think you are causing now... please, please do not go through with this... email me (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 1 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) or PM me please!

whosayswhat
12-23-2010, 07:34 PM
maybe i can get you to smile :) i hope

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Fallenflower
12-25-2010, 12:25 AM
Please! Listen to us. I love you and I couldn't ever see you hate your life so much. We're all in your same position, these stupid disorders ruin our lives and then people with the best intentions come along but end up messing it up more. Trust me, I know. Death is not the answer. Your life may be crappy now but it will not always be like this. There hope for you, and for all of us.

whosayswhat
12-26-2010, 01:24 PM
echoing flower. i should just cut and paste what she said. honestly though time does heal all wounds. i looked at your profile and i see you havent been on a couple days. would you please stop an impending heart attack on myself and just *wink* at me or just pm me hi or something on here :)) this board is for helping people.

Fallenflower
12-26-2010, 04:36 PM
Yes, do tell us what's going on. We don't want you to get hurt.

jess046
12-27-2010, 02:22 AM
Ok I'm back after a big fail at suicide. I was going to slit my wrists but stopped before I could cause any lethal damage. I never really thought it would kill me but I was just so angry. It's not even about food or eating. My parents won't let me go or do anything and it's driving me insane. I wanted to go to the shops to see a friend, since I haven't been allowed to see any friends for weeks. They wouldn't let me go. Not because I'm too sick (I'm not medically unstable). Just because they have to take everything away from me. So I went kind of bonkers. I mean it was just the last straw. They're cutting me off from every aspect of the real world. This is not the way to help me, it's just making everything worse.

To make matters worse I know I haven't put on any weight this week despite eating 2500 calories every day on average. Comes Thursday and I'm going to be in for it. I've never wanted to end it more. I can't put on the weight on so I can't appease my parents and I can't remain stuck in this fucking limbo so what am I supposed to do?

jess046
12-27-2010, 02:23 AM
Ok I'm back after a big fail at suicide. I was going to slit my wrists but stopped before I could cause any lethal damage. I never really thought it would kill me but I was just so angry. It's not even about food or eating. My parents won't let me go or do anything and it's driving me insane. I wanted to go to the shops to see a friend, since I haven't been allowed to see any friends for weeks. They wouldn't let me go. Not because I'm too sick (I'm not medically unstable). Just because they have to take everything away from me. So I went kind of bonkers. I mean it was just the last straw. They're cutting me off from every aspect of the real world. This is not the way to help me, it's just making everything worse.

To make matters worse I know I haven't put on any weight this week despite eating 2500 calories every day on average. Comes Thursday and I'm going to be in for it. I've never wanted to end it more. I can't put on the weight on so I can't appease my parents and I can't remain stuck in this fucking limbo so what am I supposed to do?

Fallenflower
12-27-2010, 02:34 AM
:( Have you talked to your parents about how it makes you feel when they cut you off from the world? Because they might not even know you feel like this.

Remember you're not in this alone. We're here for you and we love you. I know it may be hard for you to believe but I do love you and I don't want anything bad to happen to you.

Again, remember that this is NOT going to last forever. No matter how bad things get eventually they will get better. I promise.

fromtheashes
12-27-2010, 05:24 AM
I hope that Fallenflower's suggestion works.

Do you have a therapist that you trust and can talk to? If you do, they might be able to talk to your parents on your behalf, assure them that you'll be ok to go out for a bit, and that you actually *need* to see your friends to be able to get better.

I understand how bad it feels when you just can't get deep enough :( In a way it's good it didn't work, because there are so many people who would miss you if it had worked. But I understand what it's like to have no other escape.

It does get better. I'm awesome at suicide failure. It will be worth it.

jess046
12-27-2010, 06:59 AM
Oh I've made my position pretty clear. I swear the only way they'll see what's really going on is if they find me in a pool of my own blood from self-inflicted wounds. Words mean nothing to them. Of course I would never be that stupid to show off my wounds- last thing I need is another hospital stay.

My therapists are the problem. If they weren't involved my parents would leave me alone with the weight issue as I'm pretty much at the weight I was at when I was healthy and I eat very well, but they feel obligated to do everything my therapists say- which includes their target weight. And my therapists don't want me to do anything until in their eyes I'm 'weight restored'. They think if they push me hard enough I'll be so weak and depressed I'll have no choice but to comply but all this is doing is making more angry and defensive. I just don't see the point in trying when I know I'll never let myself reach their target weight and therefore any weight I do gain will be futile.

If things continue to get worse I don't know what I'm going to do. If they try and hospitalise me I know I'm going to freak. Fuck, I wish I could just put on some weight without any effort. It's amazing how hard it actually is to gain weight.

fromtheashes
12-27-2010, 01:53 PM
So I'm guessing that changing therapists is out of the question :( That really, really sucks, to be in that position.

It sounds like your parents do care but are not being given the right information to really help you. Is there any way of bartering with them? It's gonna sound bad, but perhaps there is a OP program that you could go to, and in exchange you get to see your friends on the weekend? At least that way you'll still be getting to be around other people, even if it is confronting, or doesn't help. Would they give you a little more freedom if you went to group therapy?

Fallenflower
12-27-2010, 02:12 PM
I know nothing I say will convince you. But I know that you have more to live for. Think about those things. In fact, I want you to list them. You have talents, you have friends, you have people like the people on this forum who care about you. Don't think that you are so worthless that you want to die.

rachellisa
12-27-2010, 03:00 PM
I wish you were happier. I genuinely do. I don't want to say don't go through with it, because i know undoubtedly that wouldn't change your mind.
You'll never stop thinking like someone with an eating disorder. An eating disorder itself is suicide, and a lot of people with eating disorders don't
know that, but it's true. I have an eating disorder, and i know it will kill me. That doesn't change the fact that i want to be thin. Or that i want some-
thing i can control in my life. Back to you though. You're practically suicidal with your anorexia, and then you realize, there are other ways to kill
yourself. You become a conscious suicidal. Throughout your eating disorder, you've been an unconscious suicidal. You've practically overlooked
the fact that you're killing yourself, because nothing matters as much as the main focus: Your anorexia. I know this is sort of confusing, and probably
not altering your descision to kill yourself, but know that you aren't hopeless. You haven't looked for something worth living for yet. You need to
try everything. You need to try and pick up every hobby, meet every person, and experience every oppurtunity you can. Run away if that's
what it takes, but if you're going to kill yourself, let your eating disorder do it. Don't take it into your own hands. Because as we all know, our eating
disorders are well out of our hands by now.

Xgx
01-02-2011, 03:52 AM
Sh*t, I'm soo suicidal these days.. :(
I know how you feel.

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