pissed off goodbye

[cherry_kitten]

:mad:
i don't think i'm going to post on this site anymore. there are more wanarexics (sorry to use that stupid word, but it's the only one that fits) here than at any other site, and i for one am not ging to help you cultivate an eating disorder. if you want to kill yourself by actively TRYING to gain a deadly illness, then do it by yourself!

[xAnaWingsx]

i totally agree with you. it pisses me off when people think that they can just "get" anorexia, like it's something great to have. UGH.

[pinkprincessbelle]

why would u want 2 get anorexia! If pple r on here they need help so stop being so 'I have anorexia so i am better than u'. Even if they r as u say 'wanarexics' dont they need help 2?

[Wannabewaif]

why would u want 2 get anorexia! If pple r on here they need help so stop being so 'I have anorexia so i am better than u'. Even if they r as u say 'wanarexics' dont they need help 2?

I don't think that's what they were trying to say. I think Cherry_kitten was saying there are people in here looking to lose weight (who do not have eating disorders) that are trying to get tips from those of us that do (for example looking for tips on how to purge, tips and tricks to actively starve). Not that because she (I'm assuming Cherry_kitten is a she, sorry if you're not) has an eating disorder she is better than anyone.

[Nelly]

I have to agree with all of you. This is the problem that I had with the other sites that I went to. Half of the girls that posted there didn't even have eating disorders. It breaks my heart and out rages me when I have been struggling with this for 8 years! I just recently have started to go into recovery and it is hard. How could people want to live this life and ask people who have eating disorders for help on how to lose weight?! Don't they see how horrible of a life this is? I lost my first boyfriend over Ana and I almost lost my husband over it! For those of you who are here and do not have eating disorders I highly recommend that you discontinue posting here and reading the threads here, before it motivates you to start one. Please.

Nelly

[Shandy]

i agree with pinkprincessbelle ... if you dont wana talk to ppl without a ED dont...
its not like you have to.. just ignore them... but i havent seen anyone on here who doesnt have one yet. YOU DONT HAVE TO BE ANA OR MIA TO HAVE AN ED!
i no that, so stop hating on ppl. If someone wants to starve themself they are classed as having an ED so if they are asking you on how to starve and stuff.. They have a problem. im not being nasty to ANYONE honelstly... but ppl have to realise that ana and mia arent the only ppl who have disorders and they are suffering 2.. in a different way

[Sanne]

I don't get it how ppl actually want an eating disorder...
I did'nt when i got mine...
But know I have it, so that's it, but I really don't want to drag others into it..
So I hope that I can trust the ppl I write to in here...

[alanna]

i would to anything not to have to deal with this everyday...
there is such a difference between a diet and a disorder
people here have serious problems and nothing to be taken lightly.

alannax

[FatAss]

I don't think you're being fair. These ppl are tht u call 'wannarexics' have still got a problem, they might not actually be ana but isin't this how it starts???????? You choose to diet at first and then ana strikes and then you're not controlling your diet any more ana is. So instead of leaving this forum cuz ppl are on the borderline of 'extreme diet' and ana y don't u try to understand and help these ppl get out while they still can and just take a miniute to remember how you first got here. x

[annabella]

i have to say i agree with what you are all saying.

It really concerns me that there are very young people coming on this forum saying 'i've decided i will become anorexic, any tips?' and just want a quick fix. It would be completely irresponsible to advice these people other than to say seek help, i am not comfortable with giving advice to someone who wants to develop an eating disorder, especially children. Age is a big factor for me, my conscience would not allow me to advice children to diet, let alone become ana.

however, if someone has serious body image issues and is developing eating problems, regardless of their size, they are free to ask for advice and i will do my best to give it.

xx

[Roxanna]

Its a shame that there are people that think its a good idea to have anorexia, anorexia is an illness that you get; not that you ask for or want, these people that are followers think that anorexia is all about a goal to become thin, anorexia is much more complex than that!

[FatAss]

Not everyone 'wants' to get ana some ppl just want to diet to lose weight and that's how it starts doesn't it! How did you become ana? Did u just wake up one day and ana had got hold of you for no reason at all or did you start cuttin calories, by which was by choice at the beginning? Think about it. I don't want ppl to be on here to learn how to become ana either but they still have a body image problem and still need help!

[Chew]

I agree also,

There are way too many dieters and wannabes here, but there are also allot of true anorexics like me, who actually suffer or embrace our ED, too many people wanna be anorexic but when they get there they just end up like us, destroying ourselves and no way to stop it........... I feel sorry for wannabes because they don't know what they are getting themselves into until they get into it..................

[Eeyoer]

I so agree with all of you, there are so many people out there who are wannaby anorexics, if they only knew half of what it is really like to have an eating disorder, its bleddy hell, not a fashion statement.

[JessicaAlice.]

I agree with you all. Anorexia is not something anyone 'wants'! Its not just something you get. And it is a serious thing, thats what people dont understand!! They don't know how hard it is to actually cope with an eating disorder. Its not some big joke that you 'want' to get. :(

[savory1sick]

I can see both sides. On the one hand, I haven't even been here a day and I'm sick of reading the same posts from a small number of individuals who just want to learn some tips and don't seem to know anything. And I feel bad that I think in the back of my head, "OK to answer your question, how to get rid of cravings? YOU DON'T! They are just there and you just ignore them. No one said this was easy and there's no magic trick that's going to make the process painless. We just do it anyway because we are mentally ill."

But on the other hand, I think people who seek out these sites at least have some sort of emotional problem that needs to be adressed, even if it's not an eating disorder. Because most 'normal' people are disgusted by ED sites. So, they do need to be supported. But by whom?

One thing I'm not comfortable doing (I've already done it once accidentally and I feel incredibly guilty) is giving advice to children, not because I don't think they have EDs, but because they are in a competely different place than me, physically and emotionally and its not appropriate support... This forum lists your stupid location on the right hand side of your post, but your age is optional. I think you should at least have to provide an age range if you aren't comfortable giving an exact number.

The user [FatAss] did bring up something that I disagree with. My ED never started out as a "diet" that got out of control. I hated myself and my body first, which was completely normal/thin to begin with. And I "dieted" extremely from the beginning (of course, not like now, but still really disordered). I think it's a misconception that most EDs are just people who start on a simple weight loss journey that turns into a nightmare.

But basically both sides have excellent points, and that's the sad part about these websites. They provide great support, but also uneasiness, hierarchies, and sometimes further isolation.

[Littlepeax]

I know its so stupid :mad:
Im new here, but people WANTING to be anorexic is so stupid

[zci]

I agree, I must say, I havent read all posts, just some, the first, and yours, savory1sick, and I can only say that I am 25 now, fighting with bulimia since 9 years, I joined bc I felt stranded, like no one is listening to me, and I felt/ am feeling isolated...and yes, I did not just one day think like, great lets just purge...it is an emotional disorder, it is not to me to give tips, but also I have to agree, that kids/ girls/ men, whoever is here must feel discomfort in some way, problem is they may not realize just yet that dieting does not solve it... but I think people keeping journals do not want to necessarily animate, they want someone to listen to them, so I try not to encourage, but show emotional affinity, bc, regardless of what you post, is it your cal diary, or me saying I hate myself bc I BP major, I feel everybody just wants people to listen...to get some sympathy...and with promoting diets, yes, it is not good, but really, it is just that you want someone to understand, it doesnt matter if others dont stick to it...it all comes down to the one thing (I think...) that we all have the same emotional disstress and need some support, I must say the first time I posted I was going nuts, I had cut myself 13 times, was crying my head off, and immediately I got like 4 responses, and that is what counts, thanks guys :-)

[Obese McFattySkye]

Yes people want to be anorexic are annoying I also find that anorexics that complain about these kinds of people are also annoying. I usually just ignore the ones that are trying to develope an eating disorder...it's pointless bickering about it's the Internet they will be everywhere...

[Willow]

I am not anorexic but I am also not a 'wanarexic'. I have had serious issues with my weight for about three or four years (since I was 10/11). I don't have an eating disorder but I have a very warped relationship with food, if I eat over 200 calories a day I get so upset and cry all over the place. Its hideous really. I'm not on this site to become anorexic, I just wanted others to talk to who know what its like to want to be thinner all the time and never feel good enough, or constantly feel that your hideously fat and are only happy if you're losing.

[blah]

I am not anorexic but I am also not a 'wanarexic'. I have had serious issues with my weight for about three or four years (since I was 10/11). I don't have an eating disorder but I have a very warped relationship with food, if I eat over 200 calories a day I get so upset and cry all over the place. Its hideous really. I'm not on this site to become anorexic, I just wanted others to talk to who know what its like to want to be thinner all the time and never feel good enough, or constantly feel that your hideously fat and are only happy if you're losing.

you may not have anorexia, but from what it sounds like, you definitely have an eating disorder. crying over 200 calories is still a disorder with eating, even if you aren't underweight..etc you're just considered ednos or (eating disorder not otherwise specified) you have no reason to feel like you don't belong on an eating disorder forum to share your frustrations and problems.. not that the internet is the healthiest place for an outlet (triggers/encouragement..etc) you still have the right to be on here as anyone else with a disorder

[Obese McFattySkye]

ok want to have an eating disorder is one thing....telling someone how to do it is another....


I have tried making myself throwup but not a lot comes out..is there a good method to it besides sticking my finger down my throat??


Use something longer, like the end of a toothbrush, and keep doing it until you purge everything out. Sometimes I spend as much as 20 min. in the bathroom. If you need anything else, pm me (: more than happy to help.

you will never ever see me on this site again...goodbye

[zci]

agreed, in full!! but, I am staying guys...just wanted to say that! I know we all struggle, I just think giving advice is sometimes not good...especially when someone is very down and negative, sometimes one little positive thing to say is good to!

[never_skinny]

Girls who "want" and eating disorder have issues and they need to be dealt with. We should be helping them fix their issues.

[LAD]

i feel like there is confusion amongst "wanarexics" as to the seriousness of their desire to "get" anorexia. for clarifications sake for those who actually WANT an eating disorder (what the hell are you thinking?) here are a few facts that will maybe clear things up for you and put things into a new perspective:
an eating disorder and a diet are two VERY different things. if you want to lose weight do it healthfully (excercise and healthy eating habits) and without patterns that could very well lead to an eating disorder. anorexia is not the answer to your weight problems. an eating disorder is NOT something to covet.
to someone who has or is actively struggling with this complicated disorder (like myself) to hear someone say "i wish i was anorexic" or "i want to be anorexic" is borderline offensive. no, it IS offensive. "wanarexics" (i really hate that term) say it like it is not a big deal but it is a VERY BIG DEAL. you are essentially saying that you want to willingly submerge yourself in hell (not in the religious sense). its like a small child saying that he hates his mommy. he doesn't get the meaning, the seriousness behind what he said. he just says it because he has a very vague and naive idealistic idea of hate and so he says it. he doesn't really know what it means and he won't until he experiences it himself. "wanarexics" don't realize the significance of what they said. an anorexic does and i don't know anyone with the disorder who would wish what they're going through on anybody else for anything. you have no idea of the gravity of what you might be getting yourself into. anorexia changes your ENTIRE life. and not in a good way.
so, if you're unhappy with your weight take care of it in a way that is healthy and LEARN from the experiences of anorexics like myself in a positive way. use us as an example of what NOT to do instead of guidelines.
our personal hells are NOT your diet plan.
PS: sorry for the essay.