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EnoughIsEnough
08-24-2010, 07:50 AM
I've spent my entire life living in the shadow of my younger sister.

Everything I've ever done in my life, she's done better.

Today is a classic example. It was her GCSE results day. And what were her marks? Straight A*'s. Every single subject was an A*. And where was I, while she was collecting these amazing results? I was resitting a university exam that I failed because I spend my entire life binging and purging.

This isn't a case of me being a jealous older sister. I'm unbelievably proud of her. She works hard and is VERY bright.

The problem is what my parents said to me. "Wow. She did SO much better than you! I mean, you did okay I suppose, but seriously. Wow."...I'm just not sure what her results have to do with mine. My results, for what it's worth, weren't that bad. I managed an A*, 9 A's and 2 B's at GCSE, which isn't half bad considering I went to a below-average state school (whereas she goes to a girls grammar - my parent's missed the entrance exam date with me. Lucky me, eh?) and got bullied so badly that I was taken out of several subject classes and just got given the work to do in the library.

I just wish that my parents (especially my mum) didn't compare us all the time. She's the smart, blonde, thinner, prettier one. I'm the short, fat, mousey-haired, stupid, ugly one. It's always been this way. But god, I wish everyone wasn't so quick to remind me of it.

I wish that people could see that we're two different people and can't be compared to one another. It's horrible being the stupid one when you've got 4 high A's at A level and go to a top 4 Law school. It's horrible knowing that anything I ever do in my life, she'll do it better when her turn comes around.

I wish it wasn't a competition. I wish I wasn't the trial attempt. That's honestly how it feels. My parents try things out with me, and when they don't go perfectly, they learn from it and do things better with my sister. I'm the plasticene doll without a head.

wen na ithil
08-24-2010, 07:57 AM
you don't deserve to be compared to anyone, not your sister or anyone else. Yes, tons of stuff may have screwed around with your life but you are an amazing person despite everything you have gone through! (and honestly, your results were great!)

You are not a trial attempt: you are genuinely you, 100%. you may not be perfect, but who the **** is?! and more importantly you are YOU. you have gone through so much, so much that makes you just the wonderful person you are today, and please, don't ever regret it. When everything in life comes naturally, when you don't have to work your butt off for the small things.. well, is that a kind of life you want?! you can do great things, and i am sure you will!

chin up! you are one of a kind. special in every way.

1ndonly
08-24-2010, 04:36 PM
Your sister sounds perfect. Too perfect...

Maybe she's a bot?

ree
08-24-2010, 04:53 PM
or an alien.

It sucks that with siblings everything has to be a competition in the eyes of everybody else. And I know what it's like when they're younger... my 8 year old sister already looks beautiful (she's the kind of kid you KNOW is going to be gorgeous when they're older), is amazing at singing and dancing, and playing several instruments and speaks and writes three languages. It's difficult to compete with what everyone thinks is a prodigy. Don't try to. And try not to feel too down when everyone compares you, I know it's hard... but it's unavoidable :(
You are your own person, not a set along with your sister. Your parents will realise that.
good luck xx

EnoughIsEnough
08-25-2010, 02:49 AM
That must be it! She must be an alien/robot! All I need to do now is reprogram her.

It's frustrating because I'm really proud of her, and it's not even like she's smug about it! She's just genuinely pleased but doesn't want to rub it in anyone's face.

Unfortunately my parents - particularly my mother - don't realise that.

It's funny how the only person who never gives me any approval at all (my mum) is the one person whose approval matters to me. I torture myself trying to get it, and I know I never will. I'm an idiot.

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