Mum opened a letter, help

[anonomousmia]

Ok, so yesterday evening the NHS sent my referral letter back to my home address not my university one!! grrrr!!. . .so my mum opened it! she then questioned my sister, who said I hadn't told her anything either!

my sister then told me last nyt but I broke down on the phone so I text her saying I couldn't talk as it really caught me off guard. she seemed ok about it but then in one message put 'i dont really know what to say pukey lukey, but it will get sorted'. . . .pukey lukey? is she actually being serious?! this is the exact reason I didn't tell them. . .because I knew they wouldn't understand at all! mum still hasn't rang and obviously I am going to have to ring and explain myself at some point!

Just wondered if anyone admitted it to their parents, or if their parents found out accidentally and how they handled it??! Thanks xx

[Chew]

Ok, so yesterday evening the NHS sent my referral letter back to my home address not my university one!! grrrr!!. . .so my mum opened it! she then questioned my sister, who said I hadn't told her anything either!

my sister then told me last nyt but I broke down on the phone so I text her saying I couldn't talk as it really caught me off guard. she seemed ok about it but then in one message put 'i dont really know what to say pukey lukey, but it will get sorted'. . . .pukey lukey? is she actually being serious?! this is the exact reason I didn't tell them. . .because I knew they wouldn't understand at all! mum still hasn't rang and obviously I am going to have to ring and explain myself at some point!

Just wondered if anyone admitted it to their parents, or if their parents found out accidentally and how they handled it??! Thanks xx

Although I am ana and do not tend to purge, I feel for you so badly as this is the 100% worst situation you could be faced with and the name Pukey Lukey is awfully disrespectful, I feel so badly for you, If something like this happened to me I would want to die, I am soo glad your handling the situation soo well and I hope you manage to explain, also at least the NHS letter shows that your trying to do something about it right?

[x2to00x]

i agree that being called that name is hurtful. i don't know your sister but she might be trying to make light of a situation that she doesn't know how else to handle. i really think she doesn't mean to hurt you by that statement. if anything, she's probably trying to deal with the seriousness of the letter.

also, i think that name was used kinda like a nic name, annoying as it was to say that she still feels close to you and loves you.

i don't know. i could be reading into it but i know that my siblings say the dumbest things but they love me and don't want to hurt me.

[anonomousmia]

cheers guys, i think you might be right about my sister trying 2 make light of the situation by making it a little jokey, but its obviously no joke to me.

spoke 2 my mum on the phone yesterday for the first time since she read the letter. she handled it exactly how i knew she would. she didn't understand at all. 'its in your head, why don't you just stop'. . . 'well that's fucking stupid'. . . 'your dads gona go ape shit'. . .'just eat normally'. . . .i was like i've tried and its not that easy else i would of stopped months ago. o, she also called me a 'bad girl' which is extremely patronising! as its actually a medical condition, not something i'm doing for shits and giggles! plus the fact im 21! grrrrrr :mad:

[heart18]

i feel so bad 4 u my parents found out about 2 months ago cos they read my diary.its the worst feeling ever because u know they wont understand and u didn't choose to tell them.i have the opposite problem 2u in a way cos my parents just went into worry over drive and kept telling me i'm just 'sick' and how they no i'm 'ill' at the moment and that's why i'm angry at them.they see it as more serious than i do i guess cos they just think little frail me cant do anything and think i'm anorexic which annoys me even more because i'm not even near being under weight r anorexic at all. i'm 19 and being patronized this much is the most irritating horrible feeling especially cos u feel u cant get your point across or express yourself properly. in my experience family might mean well but have little understanding of these things and i no it can be so so so annoying so what i do now if i want2 explain 1 aspect is just say 'ok this is what im going2 tell u this is how it is this is not a 2 way conversation i am just telling u u can believe me r not believe me' then i say whatever i need2 and leave the room if they try2 respond in a negative way r question me because i just cant handle their clear lacking in understanding and condescending views.anyway it must be so frustrating for u but it ll get better