Love?

[disappearing.girl]

Heyy all,
Right, I just wondered if anyone could give me some advice on this topic...

Basically I've been with my bf for about 4 and a half months and we both have really strong feelings for eachother. He has told me that he wants to be with me forever and that I'm beautiful etcc, and I feel the exact same way about him.
I know, deep down that I love him but he hasn't hasn't said it to me and I'm too scared to say it first even though I'm pretty sure that he does love me. It's not only the worry that he won't say it back.
It's also the fact that when I/we say it I want it to be perfect. I want to do it in a place where when we go there, we'll remember that it was the place where we first said "I love you"
Any advice?
How to say it/where to say it/whether to actually say it first
Anything would be helpful :)

-Beck
xx

[dragonfly]

It sounds like your both really serious about each other, and maybe he hasn't said he loves you for exactly the same reason that you haven't - maybe he's too scared as well. I don't think it really matters who says it first, but one of you has to take that risk.

I honest wanting it to be perfect, but is your desire to make it perfect making harder and scarier to tell him? The first time i told somebody that i loved them (and they said it back :D) it wasn't in a particularly special place or moment, but i still remember it as one of the most perfect times of that relationship. Like it was just saying that we were in love was what made it perfect and everything else was irrelevant.

Best advice i can give as to a good place to say it is a place in which you feel most comfortable or relaxed in. Might make it easier and less scary to say, and if you already have positive feelings about the place, i think that might make it feel more special.

[disappearing.girl]

Awah thanks for your advice :)
I'm definately going to say it soon, I love him so much that it doesn't matter if he doesn't say it back, I just want him to know :)
There have been so many times that I've just wanted to tell him but held back, now I know that I'll be able to just tell him.
Thanks alot! :)

xx

[sparkles]

Heyyy =)

Congrats on feeling love! :D I'm happy for you, it's beautiful.

My honest experience with it, I have always waited. I've never said it first. I am too scared of emotions like that. You know, the "daddy cheated on mommy and now I persecute all men" type. It hasn't done me too much harm though. If you feel like you need security, waiting for him to say it first is a great way to get that. If I went first, he would have said it back but I would not have gotten that great trust/confidence booster as a foundation and probably been pretty needy later.

If you are a strong lover, though, go for it! Love is beautiful and shouldn't be boxed up. Waiting "worked" for me, but I used love as a tool (badbadbad) and I'm slowly breaking myself from that habit to live a little. "Nothing in life is done without passion!" (a fortune cookie I got once-- passing it on to you :p)

<3mj

[disappearing.girl]

Awah thanks sparkles :)
I tried really hard to tell him the other day but I was just too nervous!
Butttt! He has told me that he wants to tell me something important tomorrow... he said that there was nothing to worry about because it was good... So fingers crossed haha!

I swear to god if he doesn't say it soon I'm going to have to just jump in there haha!
:D

-Beck
xx