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07-24-2010, 09:16 PM
A couple years ago, a couple friends and I went a saw Jenni Schaefer at a university nearby. She's the author of "Life Without Ed." It's a good book, but I don't know how I feel about recovery books. I decided to go through it and re-read what I highlighted the first time I read it. And I thought I'd share those quotes here.
"People don't have to understand us. We just need them to believe us. If I tell my mom that I "feel fat," I do not need her to convince me that I am not fat. Instead, I just need her to believe that I really do feel fat."
"Bingeing, purging, and starving. Why couldn't I stop bingeing, purging, and starving? ...Because Ed was in control."
"you are fat....You will be miserable for the rest of your life."
"Ed: You should not eat dinner.
Jenni: You are wrong. I should eat dinner, and I will.
The ultimate goal is to disagree with and disobey Ed."
"That means that you are not perfect. But it also means that you are still making progress along your journey to freedom."
"You must realize that Ed's rules do not make sense...On one day, Ed tells you not to touch that ice cream or dare drink that soda. Then, the very next day, Ed says 'Eat that entire gallon of ice cream, and drink three cans of soda. Eat as much as you can until you feel sick.' Ed's rules are designed to harm us."
"And I definitely did not think that Iwas thin enough to have an eating disorder."
"Ed: That's right. Quit trying to fight me. I'll take care of you.
You: I may not be strong enough to fight you now, but one day I will be."
"I remember sitting in my dietitian's office one day. I said, "Susan, I don't understand why I need to add more fat to my diet. I think I could live another fifty years without adding more fat."
Susan replied, "Maybe. Maybe not. But even so, it's not about surviving. It's about living."
"People don't have to understand us. We just need them to believe us. If I tell my mom that I "feel fat," I do not need her to convince me that I am not fat. Instead, I just need her to believe that I really do feel fat."
"Bingeing, purging, and starving. Why couldn't I stop bingeing, purging, and starving? ...Because Ed was in control."
"you are fat....You will be miserable for the rest of your life."
"Ed: You should not eat dinner.
Jenni: You are wrong. I should eat dinner, and I will.
The ultimate goal is to disagree with and disobey Ed."
"That means that you are not perfect. But it also means that you are still making progress along your journey to freedom."
"You must realize that Ed's rules do not make sense...On one day, Ed tells you not to touch that ice cream or dare drink that soda. Then, the very next day, Ed says 'Eat that entire gallon of ice cream, and drink three cans of soda. Eat as much as you can until you feel sick.' Ed's rules are designed to harm us."
"And I definitely did not think that Iwas thin enough to have an eating disorder."
"Ed: That's right. Quit trying to fight me. I'll take care of you.
You: I may not be strong enough to fight you now, but one day I will be."
"I remember sitting in my dietitian's office one day. I said, "Susan, I don't understand why I need to add more fat to my diet. I think I could live another fifty years without adding more fat."
Susan replied, "Maybe. Maybe not. But even so, it's not about surviving. It's about living."