parent's

[FAT ME]

doe's anyone's parent's not wan't to help them with recovery


it just seem's that my mum think's i can do it on my own and dosen't wan't to help me

[perfect_disguise]

that's what i have been struggling with. ever since i was little i hated telling my parents about any kind of medical issue and would just let them get worse until they were physically apparent so i wouldn't have to say anything. weird, i know but i guess i've always been really embarrassed and shy. i just got back from college about a month ago and they noticed i was a lot skinnier and mentioned it. i wanted recovery but i haven't had the balls to tell them that there's something really wrong, that it's not just that i've "slimmed down a bit". i wanted to get down to a ridiculous weight so it would be totally obvious i needed help. but that can't happen because that's so unhealthy. so i am just going to do it myself, no counseling or anything because i can't tell my dad that i need it. i told him i was on the brink of becoming depressed again and he told me to drink broccoli juice and go to the gym (going to the gym!? terrible advice to give a recovering anorexic. haha i don't think he realizes it though).

so, in terms of parent's helping, i guess there's no easy answer. at least your mom knows. it could be that she is scared and feels like she's ill equipped for dealing with something of this magnitude. or maybe she doesn't see it as such a big problem (because i think a lot of people are uninformed of how serious this kind of stuff was. i know i was until i was deep into it and did some research and realized you could die / get irreparable bone damage). maybe just talk to her more about it, or tell her that you can't do it alone and would like to see a neutral third party about it.

i think the hardest part is admitting to yourself you have a problem and then telling the people closest to you you have a problem, and in that respect you're already farther into recovery than i am, because i am still too embarrassed to vocalize it. so, stay strong and maybe try and see a counselor or something if your mom remains unsupportive because it'll probably make recovery easier.

[NanoBiff]

My mum was really confused the first time I recovered. I got up to a healthy weight and she was like "But why? You looked so pretty when you were thin!"
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Yeah I totally relapsed.

[EnoughIsEnough]

Hey. It sucks that you're not getting the support you need, but I don't think it's because your mum doesn't want to help you. Perhaps she's just scared for you and doesn't know how to deal with it. Have you tried asking her outright to help you?

[FAT ME]

yes she's like if u wan't to stop then just stop it's easy all u have to do is not do it


i was like mum it's harder than that

she wwas like ya well just eat and not puke and we argued aBOUT it