I didn't realise until now how fat I am...

[Starlight53a]

I realised yesterday/today that I am a horrible, fat, disgusting, ugly, worthless lump of blubber. :( It's horrible. I had thought I was kind of average or something, but then my mom told me that I'm overweight, (she usually says I'm fine, or "perfect") and I checked a BMI calculator and an ideal weight calculator, and I'm officially overweight!!! I feel like my life is ruined... And that I had made so much less progress than I'd thought I did if that makes sense... This is just horrible and gross and depressing. :( Definitely one of the worst things that's ever happened to me. :(

[something-blue]

hey hun :)

Im not trying to sound mean, but you are really young, which makes it a little unfair to compare your body shape and bmi to the "standard" ones. I wish I knew how to make you feel better and see that youre not overweight, and that your mom IS right, youre perfect..but I dont...so just take my hugs *hugs*

[Souris Sourire]

BMI only applies to people whose bodies have finished growing, never mind the fact that your BMI varries depending on which calculator you use (if you use an online one rather than working it out yourself), and that it's an inefficient standard to measure health; in fact, on the calculator I use, you're of a healthy weight. =)
If you're concerned about losing weight, talk to your mom or even a health teacher about it, and they can sort you out the right, healthy way. Don't EVER let a number control you! If you felt average before seeing that number, well darn it, you're average! You're no better or worse a person than before you saw your BMI, as the only thing that has changed is your perception.

[AlexisKnowsBest]

As the others have said, I probably wouldn't pay attention to the BMI chart until you've finished growing. & I'm 5'4" and the healthy weight for my grouping is up to 144 lbs. You're under that, so I wouldn't worry either way. And yet still, that's probably wrong considering you're so young. You're probably fine, don't be so upset about it.

However, your mom shouldn't have said that. Maybe you should tell her how upset it made you so that she won't do it again, because you definitely don't need that stress and especially not at 13 years old.