Am I just being really paranoid?

[EnoughIsEnough]

I'm a bit worried about my sister.

Recently she's been picking at moles with tweezers...like pulling them off and making massive holes in her skin. She does it on her arms, chest, and sometimes her face.

In my mind this is self harm - but perhaps I'm just being paranoid because I've used a variety of methods to hurt myself in the past.

Any views?

I'm trying to be extra nice to her, and to convince my mum to think a little more before she speaks...it seems to me that the increase in her doing this has come at the same time as my mum making harsh comments.

[Massive-Molly]

I don't know, that's tough... I know you've been really worried about your sister lately...
I know a few people who pick at their moles and skin like that just out of habit or stress, not to hurt themselves. But it could be self harm, also. it depends on her motives. Maybe you should ask her why she picks the moles off (if it is SI, she'll no doubt lie about it, so be looking for a guilty / off tone of voice or bogus excuse)

I hope your sister's okay

XOXO
Molly

[~butterfly~]

I agree with Molly. If it seems that your sister does seem like maybe she is doing it to SI (like maybe she gave some crap excuse like Molly said) then I'd talk to her about it. And alone, if you two are close, and especially if your mom wasn't really thinking before speaking.

But I would involve your parents if it seems it is and it gets worse.
I hope everything's well, it sucks to be worried about your family members like this

[Ophelia]

I hope that it's not because of self-harm, but I'd do as Molly said & just casually ask her. If she flies off the handle about it, or makes a rubbish excuse, then you'll know. You'll probably know through her response anyway if you're close. & if it does seem to be a bit suspicious, maybe talk to your parents if you feel you can. Must be difficult having had your own issues with self harm, but how did they deal with that? Do they know?

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I can't even imagine how worried I'd be if I was in your place.

It's probably a good sign that she's not doing it in secret though..

Hope it all works out & she's okay. Just be there for her the best you can, whether it turns out to be self-harm or not, especially as you've been noticing your mum making harsh comments to her.

Take care.

Lia.