Oh my god help :'(

[Katerina]

A few days ago my on-and-off boyfriend for the past few months suddenly started going out with my best friend... And i really cant cope with it... I know i messed him around so it was all my fault really, and i cant punish myself enough, nothing makes me feel any better

And the horrible thing is i always thought she was no competition to me because, however horrible it sounds, i know im better looking than her, and the only thing she has over me as a person really is that shes tiny and so very very perfectly thin :'(

since then, ive been having horrible nightmares which always start off with me and all the people who used to be my best friends laughing and happy, and then it ends with me being totally alone and then things start appearing, like swarms of spiders.. i never used to be really afraid of spiders, i was just a bit like 'ewww get away'... but now i jump and scream at every little thing and i cant get the feeling theyre creeping up on me out of my head...

and then theres the fact that ive felt continually sick for 2 days, and not felt like doing anything but sleep.. and ive been totally off food, which is usually good, but now it doesnt seem like its in a good way..

oh god i love him so much and i cant live without him! i sound so melodramatic im so sorry, but i love him so much and ive done so much wrong and now i have no-one at all :( :'(

...kat
XxX

p.s. im sorry, i just had to vent... :/

[mel_92]

Whoa. That's got to hurt, I'm sorry :( I'd be devastated if my best friend did that to me. Some people say if he's an ex, it's ok for your friends to go out with them but I disagree, imo it's an unspoken rule, you don't go with your friend's ex. But your friend went with someone you were still seeing? She doesn't sound like a friend to me.
And I know this isn't going to help, but as time goes on, it will get easier I promise. I've been badly hurt by a guy before and I thought I would never get over it but I did. Don't really know what to say regarding the dreams etc but I hope you start feeling better soon x

[Katerina]

thanks :/

unusually, my mum's being really helpful in a weird sort of way... she says i should 'just look gorgeous and steal the spotlight' and be all mature and unavailabe... because my errr i dont know ex-best friend, is a very hyper, giggly and pretty annoying person after you spend much time with her....

easier said than done.. but worth a try none the less.. hmmm

[JetBlack61]

yeah, that is totally an unspoken rule. goes a long way in showing you that neither of them are worth your time. take this as a learning experience and please try not to think "if i was thinner he would be mine". if he was truly worth your time it wouldnt matter and if it mattered he isnt worth your time right?

[flowersOFconfusion]

And the horrible thing is i always thought she was no competition to me because, however horrible it sounds, i know im better looking than her, and the only thing she has over me as a person really is that shes tiny and so very very perfectly thin :'(


unusually, my mum's being really helpful in a weird sort of way... she says i should 'just look gorgeous and steal the spotlight' and be all mature and unavailabe... because my errr i dont know ex-best friend, is a very hyper, giggly and pretty annoying person after you spend much time with her...

omg, that TOTALLY happened 2 me 1 time!
i mean... it wasnt w/ som1 i was going out w/ it was w/ som1 i liked, n the guy said he kinda liked both of us haha, but he liked her more, so he asked her out... even though i PERSONALLY never would have been able 2 c any guy wanting 2 b w/ her rather then me... its weird, i guess. w/e, its there choice, not ours lol.
rite now, it prolly feels like u do, i totally know the feeling, but - you dont need him. youll get over him. it took me almost a year 2 get over 1 guy i dated, n now he comes crawling back 2 me... and idnt even care.
thatll b u 1 day! u just wait. ull find som1 way better =] <2

Love,
Amber <3

[AlexisKnowsBest]

If your friend was welling to do this without asking you, she's not your friend & you're so much better off without her, believe me. You should talk to both of them first. First and foremost, I'd talk to the friend and tell her how uncomfortable it makes you. She should understand if she's truly a friend to you. I'd also talk to the boy, tell him that you made a mistake and that you're sorry. That's probably what he wants, and it's probably why he started dating your friend to begin with; he wants to make you jealous.