An ugly person inside an average-attractive person?

[Dakota]

This is really weird, but I feel really ugly, and society treats me like I am a freak. Yet, when I look in the mirror I don't really see an ugly person.

I never talk, hardly, and if I do it's usually just a few statements to avoid rejection from others since I do not want to be viewed negatively.

People sometimes tell me I am attractive, but I can count them all on one hand, but when I was 16 a celebrity backstage told me I was hot... other than that I don't have any other encounters. No guy ever hits on me, and now I think it's because of me for who I am and not my looks.

I just don't know if I am good looking or if I am pretending I could be good looking. Since if I was that ugly why haven't I ever been on a date, ever been kissed, ever even been hit on rudely???

[HollowedShame]

I feel for you- for the longest time I thought I was the most hideous thing to walk the face of the Earth, I think because I was teased a lot back in public school. I became very introverted and I hardly ever speak these days, and I'm willing to bet I look pretty miserable most of the time, because I've always got something negative on my mind.

No one ever approaches me, hits on me, any of that. I think now though, that it's more because of the way I come off to others. I mean, looks-wise I'm nothing special, but I don't think I'm ugly anymore. It's just the fact that I'm not the charismatic social butterfly most people are, and that makes people think I'm a bitch or arrogant. When you're quiet, people think you're being aloof, especially if you don't make much eye-contact(my big weakness- I can't look people in the eyes) and guys are especially put off by that. I guess we both have to get over the whole not talking thing, but that's a lot easier said than done, isn't it?

[drinkingduck]

you must start to understand the other people... that's the most important thing.. what they want and what they dont want :)

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[JetBlack61]

dont talk often... if i view this is a symptom of antisocial behavior i can assume you display others correct? such as a serious demeanor around people youre not overly familiar with? perhaps a somewhat angry or tense expression around people youre not familiar with as well?

the reason may not be how you look, but how you act. before a guy hits on you he must first answer this question "if i compliment her will she take the compliment in a good way or throw a brick at me?" and chances are if your not speaking and possibly tense as i had mentioned.. he may think youre more likely to throw something heavy.

its probably all body language.
acting like this at work made it go faster, people bothered me a lot less while i was doing mah job. try acting happy?