pictures to boys

[guesswho]

okay i realize i may sound like a slut but oh well
theres this guy who i like and he asked for a picture of me
and i said yeah, but i just tried to take one and i look f*cking gross
fat everywhere, and my boobs are nasty bc the weight i did lose came off of them.
so not cute!
theres just no way i can give him one without having a breakdown!
i dont know exactly how to tell him hes not getting one bc "sorry, im fat" is like my only excuse.
should i just get over it and send it though??

[Jacklinger]

Did he ask for a naked pic or just a pic? If he just wanted a pic, put on something cute and smile and send that to him.

[guesswho]

no, haha like a dirty pic.

but never mind- i just sent him a message saying i didnt want anyone to see it, so crises averted.

[FrailAngel]

My guy "friend" asked me to take dirty nude pics too, and I took some then I looked at myself and I was SO gross. So I told him no cuz I look disgusting right now and of course he's all like "you look gorgeous".. but i still didn't give them to him, cuz if i'm not alright with them then he doesn't get em. I told him I got my clit pierced and he wants a pic of that too, but he sure as hell ain't getting that cuz that is wrong. If he wants to see it he can come and see me lol.

[gmacarroll]

I've sent some to my boyfriend, and have the same problem. I take like 100 pictures and go through them over and over again until I find one that doesn't look SO bad. You know what though, obviously he wants pics of you because he finds you attractive!!! He probably doesn't see your body the same way you do-ppl with ED's generally have a distorted body image right? He probably won't see your "fat" or your "nasty" boobs. All he'll be thinking is DAMN! this girl is so f'in hot!!!

If you don't like the way your boobs look then maybe take a sexy lingerie picture, or if you have long hair you can make it look all sexy and kind of hide your boobies, while still giving a slight peek. This will prob be arousing cus he'll want more, it's not just like BAM boobs, it's like mmm, I like what i'm seeing but I wish I could see more! it'll make you more mysterious and stuff like that can often be hotter then just nude pics. I don't like my boobs, so that is usually what I do and I find it works pretty good (tho like you I still think i look disgusting, and can't imagine why anyone would even want a picture of me, especially one with me where i'm wearing nothing/barely anything. I think it's a turn off, but my boyfriend loves them).

Also, from personal experience taking a picture of yourself is super hard, and a lot of times you have to go into really unflattering positions so you can take your picture. I find using a mirror really helps-pose all sexy and take a picture of the mirror (no flash). It's good because you can experiment with what certain poses look like and can try to avoid positions that make you look larger then you are.

also, be careful who you send them too...make sure it's something that IF it did get out for other people to see it's not the end of the world (i.e-lingerie pictures are prob better to have leaked then nude ones). If you trust him, then it can be a really sexy/kinky way to spice up the relationship...if you are just doing it because you think he won't like you if you don't, then he isn't worth it and probably isn't the best to be sending those types of pics to.

[gmacarroll]

sorry, didn't read that you told him no...I left my original post up so if you change your mind you can use some of the tips I find helpful. If you really aren't comfortable doing it, then good for you for saying no. It often takes much more courage to say no then it does to just give in and do something that is potentially psychologically damaging for you. No point raping yourself right?

<3

[Becky]

hey ino that uve sed no already but i thought i wud jus post bout my experience.
i sent some to a guy and i looked at them and like you thought urgh. but i sent them cuz he was very demanding (in a good way) and tbh i felt good afterwards because he told me that i looked good and he liked what he saw. tho i still didnt beleive it myself it was nice to know that that isnt the opionino of everyone. u neva no, it could be good for ur self esteem.