Long distance........

[BarbieGirl]

everyone i talk to says its really hard, but for some reason i find it easy!!

When i am in a long distance relationship i find it so much easier!! I don't worry about them realising that i have lost weight. I dont worry about them seeing me naked all the time. I find it easier to tell them that i have eaten when i havent..........i don't know. Am i the only who thinks this?? :/

[Jula]

of course long distance has it's good points but think about all the bad stuff.
moreover when you don't see somebody for long and after that meet again they notice the weight loss more easily than someone that sees you 3-4 a week.
i don't know about you but i'm going to leave my girlfriend, cause i'm going to america.. and i'm scared so scared of it xD
not all relationships are strong enough to survive a whole year (or even more!) apart.

[BarbieGirl]

i totally agree with you!! it does have its bad points but you also dont have the constant worries there :/

and your also right their not.....maybe it is for the best :/

[JetBlack61]

its not easy.. it hurts all the time and you cant make it stop. hell, you dont want it to stop.

[stargAzerkitty]

It's not easy.
It hurts more than anyone could ever know.

[BarbieGirl]

i think its really weird that you say that :/
I am in a long distance relationship now. He comes to visit as offten as he can and I go there when I can....but I find it soooo much easier than having someone watching me all the time. Sure I miss him and wish he could be here but I still find it way easier :/

Maybe I am just weird :S

[Vision Thing]

No no, I totally agree barbie girl, I found it a lot easier

[BarbieGirl]

No no, I totally agree barbie girl, I found it a lot easier

I just find it hard to hold onto someone close by ya know?!

[butterfliesinhereyes]

Being in a long distance relationship is the hardest thing I've ever done. I miss him being there practically all of the time. I miss waking up in the middle of the night and feeling his arms around me. It is easier to lose weight when I'm home and not around him, but the sadness I feel when he's not here becomes more than I can handle. We try to visit as much as possible, but it's not the same. It hurts.

[BarbieGirl]

I miss him.....sure I do and I miss all the stuff we do when he is here, buuuuuuuuuuuut there is always a huge part that is thinking that i would rather have him away so i can honestly lose weight and not have him watching over me 24/7 ya know?!
I think I can honestly say that i am shit scared about when we get a place together!! I would rather live on my own >.<
To be honest.....i think i can honestly say my ED has fucked up my relationship life and I would pick my ED over a guy =/ specially these days now that i have gained so much =/

[Sapphire]

i think a long distance relationship can be good for a relationship.

that way you both will know better if you like being with the person more than being away from him/her.

the biggest problem i have with long distance relationships is trust.

[butterfliesinhereyes]

I'm currently in a long distance relationship and after having practically lived with the boy for six months, I find it very hard to be apart. I do agree with the point that you really learn if you truly like the person. When I moved away to college, I was in a relationship, but I found myself flirting with other guys and not really missing the boy I was dating. I just missed having someone. We broke up shortly after we started school. In the relationship I'm in now, I miss my boy every single day and just want to talk to him and see him as much as possible. I have no interest in anyone else. He really is the love of my life and I'll deal with being apart from him for as long as I have to, which thank god, is only for another three months.

On the subject of trust, you can't trust someone when they are apart from you if you can't trust them when they're with you. I have the same problem. I used to be so insecure about my boy hooking up with some random girl. But, one day something just clicked. I'm the one he wants to spend his time with. I'm the one he loves. I trust him. I have to.

If you ever want to talk about the issues of being in an LDR, just drop me a pm. :)

[BarbieGirl]

I'm currently in a long distance relationship and after having practically lived with the boy for six months, I find it very hard to be apart. I do agree with the point that you really learn if you truly like the person. When I moved away to college, I was in a relationship, but I found myself flirting with other guys and not really missing the boy I was dating. I just missed having someone. We broke up shortly after we started school. In the relationship I'm in now, I miss my boy every single day and just want to talk to him and see him as much as possible. I have no interest in anyone else. He really is the love of my life and I'll deal with being apart from him for as long as I have to, which thank god, is only for another three months.

On the subject of trust, you can't trust someone when they are apart from you if you can't trust them when they're with you. I have the same problem. I used to be so insecure about my boy hooking up with some random girl. But, one day something just clicked. I'm the one he wants to spend his time with. I'm the one he loves. I trust him. I have to.

If you ever want to talk about the issues of being in an LDR, just drop me a pm. :)

i know how you feel. my fiance is a two day drive from me and i hate being away from him soooooooooo much!! i just want to be with him ALL the time and the time we spend together is so amazing!! and i know he really does care!! and that he loves me back as much as i love him. when we are together nothing can EVER get us away from each other either!!

and your right about trust too!! i trust A.J with my life and dont know what i would do if i didnt trust him!!

same to you hun =D

[Kelley]

kind of an oldish post, but i wanted to throw in my two cents.

i was in a long distance relationship for two years. we just ended things for good last wednesday. we met online, so the dynamics of our relationship were definitely a little different than a long distance relationship between two people that moved apart, but i know that it was in no way easy.

the only thing i gained from the experience is that long distance relationships are extremely hard to sustain. i was head over heels in love for the last year and half but people change and when you're not actually together, it's hard to change together (if that makes sense)... We grew apart instead of growing together, i guess, and in the end i just grew to resent him and dislike everything about him.

maybe it was just me. i don't know. it was the most amazing love i've ever felt and also the worst. but i learned a lot from it. as far as trust goes, all i can say is that if a person is willing to commit to you over 50 or 100 or a million miles, then they most likely honestly care about you and aren't the kind of person that would betray your trust.

i also know that i cheated on him multiple times. so i guess that goes against what i said before. (it's a way deeper story than i'm telling here... i could probably write a novel all about it).

That's all. Good luck in love and whatever happens :)