Does it get in the way?

[mustbethin61394]

Recently me and my boyfriend have been talking about having sex. I really care about him but im not comfortable showing him my body. I am no where near my goal weight and im scared if he sees he will leave.

I asked him about it and he said he loves my body. But E.D. takes over and says that he is just saying that to get into my pants.

I have BPD so i am deathly afraid of people leaving.

I guess what im getting at is does your eating disorder/body image get in the way of your sex life??

[Sapphire]

does it get in the way!!! thats an understatement.

i rarely have sex with my husband because i dont want him to look at my body,... its bad enough when he does and im wearing clothes (looks at me that is) but no clothes, forget it. a few months ago i tried it 2x and it was terrible having him see me.

so... with that said, i dont cuddle much at all with him, dont touch him much at all... sometimes ill hold his hand for litterly a minute or two when were watching a movie... oh and kissing, yeah that is about non-existant. an occasional peck every couple days if that, and it is really just a peck.

hes stressed lately so i dont think it bothers him much because he doesnt have to do anything to try and make me happy :/

whatever.

sex is misserable... and the climax isnt worth all the trouble i feel inside about myself most of the time.

if it really bugs you, wear a tshirt. ive done that before, it makes it not quite so bad (a really big tshirt that is that comes down over my thighs...) maybe should just wear my sneakers while im at it haha

[lovebexs]

yes, it does get in the way for me too :/
for the most part, i can only be intimate with guys when i'm either drunk or high, since that helps me feel more confident. actually though, the other week i had sex with a guy sober and it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. i was expecting to feel disgusted the whole time, but i actually didn't which was weird but nice. i'm sure that your boyfriend doesn't think you have a gross body though! if he really thought that, he wouldn't want to sleep with you.if he thought your body was gross, he wouldn't want to sleep with you, so i doubt he's just saying he likes your body to get in your pants! xo

[JetBlack61]

yeah, if he wants to get into your pants it means he finds you attractive. XD

and damn saph.. if hes stressed.. you think maybe its because of a lack of affection? when my girl doesnt give me much affection... it really stresses me out.. all those dark nasty thoughts start to surface, after while that lack of affection can bog a guy down almost as bad as any disorder can.