How Is This Beauty???

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I don't understand people. Everyone is soooo judgmental and at the same time hypocritical. For my example look at the pictures below. The first one is me at my highest weight, the second me around the time I started trying to actively lose weight, and the third is the closest I have to me now after starting to lose.

The other two are my main problem though.

The girl in the purple dress is my friend Lisa. I don't understand her. She looks HUGE to me and yet she can out exercise me, out bench me, fits into small clothes, and has men literally drooling over her and eating out of the palm of her hand.

The last one is my niece, younger by three weeks. She too weighs less than me and has men drooling over her. She wears a smaller size and is Miss Perfect.

I don't understand! How is it that these two people, (and they are just the two biggest examples but I know soooo many more people like this) look huge and fleshy and generally yucky to me, have guys flocking to them and yet the same ones look at me and say "you could stand to lose a few pounds"???!!!???!!!

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[Vision Thing]

I think everyone will always judge. Maybe it's a personality thing, and guys find your cousin/friend more approachable?

I'm not calling you a bitch, but a lot of people with EDs are pretty insecure, and I think a lot of other people can sense that insecurity and might be a little bit put off. You could also just be a quieter, less socially outgoing person.

I don't think your friend/cousin look at healthy weights, they look a little big. But they do seem to have confidence and smile with their eyes. Maybe that's why they are more liked by guys?

Also, it's people's natures to be cruel. Why do you think you're having eating problems? Chances are its because of something cruel someone has done or said. You've just got to show them your true colours and not be afraid.

[rockbreaker]

mate you should never judge anyone by their looks or with the first impression we get about them.. always making a thorough search is best!

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mate you should never judge anyone by their looks or with the first impression we get about them.. always making a thorough search is best!

Well that's true but I DO know these two girls pretty well. One in my neice and the other is my best friend. And I wasn't really bashing them or anything, it was more against myself. When I posted this thread it was again after someone had said something to me. And yes, I know that I am extrememly insecure about myself and it could translate through but I don't know I jsut just find it weird.

I do get told that I am attractive by people but by the "wrong" people. No one my age or around my age who was mentally stable (really bad story <shudders>) has ever told me that they think I'm attractive. I always get this from guys who are at LEAST 15 years older than me.

And I WASN'T trying to be a bitch lol. I wasn't really bashing THEM but myself. I think the main thing was wondering how it is that they look bigger to me than I am but fit into smaller clothes and can out exercise me when I do so regularly and they don't. It just discourages me.