People thinking the worst of you.

[JetBlack61]

Have any of you went through efforts to be a better person in general, only for people especially gf's/bf's to automatically think the worst of you whenever possible? Trying to be the best bf possible here and getting shit on.. i can deal with it, but i just feel so frustrated i can barely talk to her.

How do you guys get over that frustration?

[Alice Hunger]

I tried to make myself a better person for my best friend, but she got mad at me because one of our "friends" said I was a total fake and trash talk her ehind her back. We're on better terms now, but I'm frustrated at least... :mad:

Oh, and how I get over the frustration? I restrict or binge...

[anonomousmia]

I had to be really careful when I was with my bf (call him J) because he was soooo jealous of a lad I used to see who I was still really good mates with, D. And I tried so hard to cut down on the time I spent with D, and never spoke to J about him either. And still, he used to freak out if he ever came up into conversation!? And the day before J broke up with me, we argued about 2 text messages. One, from a completely different guy, who is a mate, just asking if I was out that night as he was and we hadn't seen each other in 5 months?! And J went crazy?! Like, so paranoid I was cheating on him!? He actually ask if I was, and we had a 30 minute conversation about it where I was trying to calm him down! What's that about?! Ugh.

So yeah I can relate! You got to talk to her, it's the only way. Communication is vital. I told my bf that was bang out of order the day after, and he knew it. Then he went back on his words, and broke up with me anyway, and I was like don't try using that as the excuse because you KNOW I'm not cheating, and then he told me the real reasons he was breaking up with me and I was like, whatever then, fuck you. lol xx

[humanwaste]

People will always disappoint you there is no way any one can appreciate all the things you do. That's why you have to strive to improve for yourself, not other people.

[Ruthless]

Have any of you went through efforts to be a better person in general, only for people especially gf's/bf's to automatically think the worst of you whenever possible? Trying to be the best bf possible here and getting shit on.. i can deal with it, but i just feel so frustrated i can barely talk to her.

How do you guys get over that frustration?


I tried so hard to change everything about myself to make my husband happy, and he always thoguht the worst. If I went out to buy a surprised dinner for him, he thought I was out drinking with friends, for example. If I did anything the least bit selfish I heard about for years.

I dealt with it very well, I divorced him.


Now, in your case, how long has she been acting this way? If it's only been a week or so it could be PMS. We, women, are insane when we are going through PMS and will take it out on the closest person possible. If she is overly stressed by something it might be that as well...

You should sit her down and ask her if there is something stressing her out or if she is upset by something. If it's not PMS stress and doesn't seem like it's going to pass, you need to figure out if the relationship is worth the frustration.

Last thing, don't change who you are for someone else... if you want to change, do it for you.

[Ruthless]

I had to be really careful when I was with my bf (call him J) because he was soooo jealous of a lad I used to see who I was still really good mates with, D. And I tried so hard to cut down on the time I spent with D, and never spoke to J about him either. And still, he used to freak out if he ever came up into conversation!? And the day before J broke up with me, we argued about 2 text messages. One, from a completely different guy, who is a mate, just asking if I was out that night as he was and we hadn't seen each other in 5 months?! And J went crazy?! Like, so paranoid I was cheating on him!? He actually ask if I was, and we had a 30 minute conversation about it where I was trying to calm him down! What's that about?! Ugh.

So yeah I can relate! You got to talk to her, it's the only way. Communication is vital. I told my bf that was bang out of order the day after, and he knew it. Then he went back on his words, and broke up with me anyway, and I was like don't try using that as the excuse because you KNOW I'm not cheating, and then he told me the real reasons he was breaking up with me and I was like, whatever then, fuck you. lol xx


I despise jealousy! It's so upsetting! If you love someone either trust them or leave them!

[JetBlack61]

thanks for the advice ^_^